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Do Black Men Hate Black Women? - Jul 01,2013

2013-06-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The question has to be asked. Looking at the verbally and emotionally abusive language and cruel words used both online and offline - coupled with reports all over the world of atrocities and assaults committed by black and brown men against their women, its pretty hard to say there is much in the way of love being demonstrated. Why is it that the men black women want to love, want to be cared for by, want to have children with, and want to grow old with are seemingly focused on their anniliation? Is this a situation where black women need to wake up and accept that there is a war going on and they are going to be on the losing end if they dont start fighting back? Call in to 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts.

black men hate black women | the war on women | misogyny in the black community | verbal abuse emotional abuse | violence against women

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Would You Pay $7000 to Learn How to Talk to Women? - Jun 24,2013

2013-06-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The pick up artist industry is an amazing one ... men around the world who claim that women are second class citizens, need to submit to them, are nothing but hos, etc. are paying $5000-10000 for a weekend to learn how to understand women, talk to women, and get women into their bed. Isnt that contradiction interesting? To me the success of this industry means five things: There are a lot of geeky guys with a lot of money but no social skills; There are a lot of confused guys that have no confidence about their ability to attract or keep a womans attention; There are a lot of guys so desperate to have female attention and sex that they are willing to pay big bucks to "learn" how to manipulate and control women into giving it to them; There is a difference in the angle men play and womens responses to those games by race; and Women of all races have an unbelievable amount of power over men they arent using to their advantage. Were going to discuss the pick up artist industry, what these guys teach lonely horny men, and how women need to get up on the games these guys play to protect themselves. The call in number is 347-327-9215. Looking forward to your contribution to the discussion!

pick up artists | lonely single men | pickup artist techniques | how to pick up women | how to get a girlfriend

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What is a Hoe and Why a Man Should Happily Marry One - Jun 17,2013

2013-06-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Many men are deathly afraid of marrying a woman that other men view as "a ho". They want to marry a "good girl" and constantly worry that a woman will expose herself to be more experienced sexually than he is comfortable with. But I think men would be much happier marrying hos and getting some great satisfaction gained from experience instead of worrying about who has been there before. During this broadcast well answer some very important questions such as What make a woman a ho vs. a good girl? Why are men so worried about marrying a ho? Are there different types and levels of hos? Like college degrees - do hos come in doctorate levels? Why do hos finish first and nice women finish last? Is it true that hos have more fun? This show should be VERY interesting and were hoping the guys call in and share their thoughts. The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

how men choose a wife | the ho test | the type of woman men marry | marrying a good girl | how to be a good wife

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Do You Have Rhetoric Fatigue Syndrome (RFS)? - Jun 15,2013

2013-06-14 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

RFS is a recently recognized affliction suffered by millions of black women. Most do not know they have it, as the rhetoric is dispensed on a daily basis, and many have built up a resistance over the years. Rhetoric Fatigue Syndrome is the umbrella term for a vast array of symptoms such as: GTFOHWTBSitis SICKOFYOSHYTitis NINJAPLEASEitis A further, often overlooked symptom of RFS includes instant headache and blurred eyesight whenever a black man asks a black woman to solve their behavior ("how do you plan on preventing further damage in the future") or places blame on society (the white people who have been plotting on the demise of the black community) for their behavior. In advanced stages of RFS, women experience instant migraines upon hearing the words Willie Lynch and/or it all goes back to slavery. Relief is temporarily experienced when black men actually take responsibility for their own actions instead of blaming others, but that relief is often short lived. Call 347-327-9215!

rhetoric fatigue syndrome | single black women | blaming black women | failure to be accountable | black men

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Can a Man Rape His Wife? - Jun 11,2013

2013-06-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Interesting story in the news where a woman sued her husband for sexual assault though they were married. For many years there were no laws protecting women from rape by their husbands, as it seemed to be accepted that a man "owned" his wifes body once she said I DO. When does a consensual sexual experience turn into rape? Ill also share some of the widely disparate opinions Ive come across on this subject from both men and women. Should be an interesting and eye-opening discussion! The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

sexual assault laws | marital rape | consensual nonconsensual sex | what behaviors constitute rape | men raping their wives

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Ghetto Girls Get Husbands More Than Educated Black Women? - Jun 11,2013

2013-06-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

An article came out today that claimed black women are spending too much time and effort going to school, when they should instead be spending that time focusing on men and marriage. As you can imagine, it created quite an uproar. One poster went on to explain that "If you know you want to get married, you have to eliminate or scale back those pursuits which interfere with that and make yourself available."Oh really?Read the article here and come prepared to discuss the issue of black women, education and marriage. Do black women really have to give up searching for a husband to achieve higher education? Or if a black woman wants to be married should it mean she has to curtail her educational pursuits?

black women marriage rates | college educated black women | single black women | is marriage for white people | successful black women find a man

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The Three Stages of Dating - Where Do You Mess Up? - Jun 04,2013

2013-06-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Were you aware of the fact that there are three main stages that every relationship passes through from first meeting to happily ever after? Thats right, there are three primary stages to building a real and lasting relationship, and most relationships never make it out of the second one. Were you also aware of the fact that the majority of relationship experts put the onus on the female to play particular roles at each stage of the game to guide (aka manipulate) the male into a relationship with her? Well discuss these three main stages of every relationship and discuss the reasons why males and society are so happy to put responsibility for the relationships failure or success on the shoulders of the female. Well also discuss what women should do about that. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion, or log on to the Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show on BlogTalkRadio.Com.

getting to commitment | relationship stages | fear of commitment | how to get a boyfriend | how to get a husband

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The Three Stages of Dating - Where Do You Mess Up? - Jun 03,2013

2013-06-02 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Were you aware of the fact that there are three main stages that every relationship passes through from first meeting to happily ever after? Thats right, there are three primary stages to building a real and lasting relationship, and most relationships never make it out of the second one. Were you also aware of the fact that the majority of relationship experts put the onus on the female to play particular roles at each stage of the game to guide (aka manipulate) the male into a relationship with her? Well discuss these three main stages of every relationship and discuss the reasons why males and society are so happy to put responsibility for the relationships failure or success on the shoulders of the female. Well also discuss what women should do about that. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion, or log on to the Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show on BlogTalkRadio.Com.

getting to commitment | relationship stages | fear of commitment | how to get a boyfriend | how to get a husband

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Sociopathic Delusional Narcissists in the Dating Pool - May 27,2013

2013-05-26 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Have you noticed what Ive noticed... that most black males are suffering from some form of SERIOUS mental illness? The vast numbers of those displaying behavioral traits of a sociopath is frightening. Others display the traits and attitudes of a complete narcissist, while others are just plain delusional about their attractiveness, power, or abilities. Its time for a reality check, and you know no one delivers reality in sound bytes like Ms. HeartBeat. Join us for another controversial and informative discussion on singles and dating on the Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show! Call 347-327-9215 to share your stories of dating one of these types of guys or having guys like this in your family or social circle.

narcissistic personality disorder | traits of a sociopath | are all black males sociopaths | mentally ill black males | delusional men

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Can a Man Rape His Wife? - May 23,2013

2013-05-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Interesting story in the news where a woman sued her husband for sexual assault though they were married. For many years there were no laws protecting women from rape by their husbands, as it seemed to be accepted that a man "owned" his wifes body once she said I DO. When does a consensual sexual experience turn into rape? Ill also share some of the widely disparate opinions Ive come across on this subject from both men and women. Should be an interesting and eye-opening discussion! The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

sexual assault laws | marital rape | consensual nonconsensual sex | what behaviors constitute rape | men raping their wives

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When Women Say I Don't Need a Man... - May 20,2013

2013-05-19 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Black men lose their minds when a sistah says "I dont need a man!" All sorts of accusations about what is wrong with her are usually what follows - from being gay to carrying emotional baggage after being damaged in past relationships. I recently came across a long blog post where a guy took the time to explain how hearing that phrase makes black men feel. Well discuss his theories and the real reasons that black women say "I dont need a man!", as well as what women mean when they say it. Join us on Sunday, May 19th starting at 6:00 p.m. PST/9:00 p.m. EST. To participate in the discussion log on, or call 347-327-9215.

women that do not need a man | single black women | independent black women | things black men hate to hear | female rejection

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Why Men and Women Struggle with the Word NO! - May 12,2013

2013-05-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

No is a complete sentence in my book, one that establishes boundaries and places limits. Personally, "no!" is my favorite word! However, Ive noticed over the years that many men dont want to hear "no!" from the mouths of women. Most seem to believe women have no right to deny their wishes by telling them "no!" or "not now" or "I dont think so". Men do not want to hear anything from women that denies them what they feel they are entitled to. Sadly, many women struggle with saying "no!" to males. Most of the time female hesitancy and fear of saying "no! to men is due to female socialization. Women are trained to believe that a woman must always be nice, sweet, gentle and acquiesce or submit to what a male wants or he wont "like" her. Some womens biggest fear is that they must do everything the man asks and give him whatever he wants or he will "leave" her. Lets talk about the word "no!" and why so many people of both genders struggle with it - both saying and accepting it. The call-in number ie 347-327-9215. Well get started at 6:00 p.m. PST/9:00 pm EST.

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Every Woman Can Find Love - How to Choose a Husband - May 09,2013

2013-05-08 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

SUZANNE VENKER has written extensively about politics, parenting, and the influence of feminism on American society for more than a decade. Suzanne has appeared on The View, Fox & Friends, Fox's former Dayside with Linda Vester, ABCNews.com, CNN with Carol Lin, C-Span, and Canadian and Australian news outlets—as well as hundreds of radio shows throughout the country.Shes written four books, and well have her on to discuss How to Choose a Husband (And Make Peace With Marriage) (February 2013). On the heels of the uproar created by Prof. Ralph Richard Banks Is Marriage for White People, Suzanna has very firm ideas about what women and men need to do to maintain a marriage, and believes that feminism is in many respects, hurting male/female relationships and womens chances for marriage. How to Choose a Husband (And Make Peace with Marriage), takes a hard look at the sexual revolution and encourages women to reject the cultural script they've been sold about love, sex, men and marriage In How to Choose a Husband, social critic and bestselling author Suzanne Venker says American women need a detox. If they want to be happy, or just plain satisfied, they must do a 180 when it comes to their attitude towards sex, courtship and married life. If they do, marriageable men will reappear - and women will find the love that eludes them.Join us for what is sure to be a dynamic interview. The call in number is 347-327-9215.

Suzanna Venker | How to Choose a Husband | single women and marriage | is marriage for white people | feminism and marriage

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Western Women and Foreign Brides - May 06,2013

2013-05-05 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Thousands of American men can be found online railing against feminism and the modern American woman. Their chief complaints: (1) Western women have no concept of how to treat a man; (2) feminism has destroyed men and the family; and (3) Western women dont know what it takes to be a "real" wife. Their suggested solution is that men look for a wife in Asia, Russia, Africa or South America. Who are these men? Are they social misfits that cant handle a woman that demands consideration and a balance of power in the relationship? Are they broke so women consider them poor husband material? Or could it be that these are professional, wealthy, educated men that want a wife that wont challenge them in any way and just augment their existence? Most of the foreign bride websites and catalogs emphasize how these women have strong family values, and know how to make a man "feel like a king." It appears that a great many men long for that kind of acknowledgement and a return to "the old days" when men were revered and served by women. A recent Today Show poll asked about "femininity" and whether it was tied to traits like being soft, receptive to mens ideas and lead, and submissive." The majority of the Today Show audience said yes - 56%. About 25% felt the answer was somewhere in the middle, and only 19% disagreed. Does this mean Western women are not viewed as "feminine" by the majority of men? Could this be why our marriage rate is declining? Join us to discuss the pros and cons of the foreign bride market and what it means for American women. Call 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts!

foreign brides green cards | Western American women | femininity and feminism | why men hate feminists | female submission and marriage

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Women and Motherhood - Blessing or Tool for Control? - May 04,2013

2013-05-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Discussion of women and the whole motherhood thing. Why are men so threatened by the woman that chooses to remain child free and unmarried? Why is she labeled selfish and not wife material? Why is society so focused on the wombs of women and what we do with our womb? Others focus on what age a woman should stop having children, how many abortions a woman can get, whether a woman can use the morning after pill or not, whether a womans insurance (that she pays for!) should pay for her birth control when it pays for , and on making legislation to control womens access to things that provide them with the power to control what comes out of their womb and when? Its worst in the black community where African American women and girls are harassed both for having children out of wedlock AND for aborting a pregnancy if she chooses NOT to have children she cannot afford. Are Black women are damned if they do and damned if they dont? Every way women turn it seems they are being harassed by MEN about children - when to have them, when not to have them, taking them away from them, etc. Are men afraid of womens power to reproduce? Should women just stop having children altogether?

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Western Women and Foreign Brides - May 04,2013

2013-05-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Thousands of American men can be found online railing against feminism and the modern American woman. Their chief complaints: (1) Western women have no concept of how to treat a man; (2) feminism has destroyed men and the family; and (3) Western women dont know what it takes to be a "real" wife. Their suggested solution is that men look for a wife in Asia, Russia, Africa or South America. Who are these men? Are they social misfits that cant handle a woman that demands consideration and a balance of power in the relationship? Are they broke so women consider them poor husband material? Or could it be that these are professional, wealthy, educated men that want a wife that wont challenge them in any way and just augment their existence? Most of the foreign bride websites and catalogs emphasize how these women have strong family values, and know how to make a man "feel like a king." It appears that a great many men long for that kind of acknowledgement and a return to "the old days" when men were revered and served by women. A recent Today Show poll asked about "femininity" and whether it was tied to traits like being soft, receptive to mens ideas and lead, and submissive." The majority of the Today Show audience said yes - 56%. About 25% felt the answer was somewhere in the middle, and only 19% disagreed. Does this mean Western women are not viewed as "feminine" by the majority of men? Could this be why our marriage rate is declining? Join us to discuss the pros and cons of the foreign bride market and what it means for American women. Call 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts!

foreign brides green cards | Western American women | femininity and feminism | why men hate feminists | female submission and marriage

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Black Women Giving a Brotha a Chance? - May 02,2013

2013-05-01 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Last week I posted one of what I call my PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENTS which stated PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT #1507 This is a reminder to all Black women who find themselves on that "Imma give a nigga a chance to be fair" thang... you aint the EEOC! That is all. Black womens obsession with "giving a brotha a chance" at the expense of themselves and their children? Why are there epidemic numbers of black women that dont expect "anything" financial, material or otherwise from a man -- and as a rule they GET nothing. He sits around her house, eating up all her food and utilizing her car and other resources while she continues to struggle financially. Having his babies yet seeing no real support coming from him is the norm. Why are black women so willing to sacrifice themselves and opportunities for advancement behind a man? Who or what is it that motivates black women to behave in such self-defeating ways towards black men? And why do black men feel they are OWED this type of loyalty and support?

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Black Women Giving a Brotha a Chance? - May 01,2013

2013-04-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Last week I posted one of what I call my PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENTS which stated PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT #1507 This is a reminder to all Black women who find themselves on that "Imma give a nigga a chance to be fair" thang... you aint the EEOC! That is all. Black womens obsession with "giving a brotha a chance" at the expense of themselves and their children? Why are there epidemic numbers of black women that dont expect "anything" financial, material or otherwise from a man -- and as a rule they GET nothing. He sits around her house, eating up all her food and utilizing her car and other resources while she continues to struggle financially. Having his babies yet seeing no real support coming from him is the norm. Why are black women so willing to sacrifice themselves and opportunities for advancement behind a man? Who or what is it that motivates black women to behave in such self-defeating ways towards black men? And why do black men feel they are OWED this type of loyalty and support?

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How to Keep a Man Interested in You - Apr 29,2013

2013-04-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

All over the web, in book after book, and in womens magazines like Cosmo, Womans Day, Essence, Ebony, and even teen magazines, are articles that tell females what they must do, say, wear and be like in order to "keep" their boyfriend or husband interested in them. Since when did it become the sole responsibility of the female to keep a man interested in her or a relationship? Who said that? I do know that if a man cheats one of the first things black women do is blame the female, chastising her with comments such as "you cant KEEP your man" or "you must not be doing something right so he has to go get it somewhere else!" Black men happily buy into this blameshifting mentality because it takes the heat off them! And why do so many men expect to sit on their butt and not lift a finger to entice or romance their women, but expect HER to do all the work emotionally, sexually, physically and in every other way to bring HIM entertainment and excitement? Is it possible for a woman to keep a man interested in her who has lost interest? What does she have to do? And does it make sense to even try to take on such a burdensome responsibility? This should be a very interesting discussion! Please join us by logging on or calling 347-327-9215

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First Date Shoulds and Should Nots! - Apr 28,2013

2013-04-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Dating is horrible enough without people adding to the drama with ridiculous eye rolling behaviors, uncouth words, grossness, and inappropriate conversation. What would you say are some of the things that should not be said or done on first dates? What are some important things that should be asked or discussed, observed or watched for that people generally dont pay much attention to? And if you can see that this is not going anywhere, how to you extricate yourself from the date? Likewise if you cant wait to see the person again, how do you approach getting that second date? This is an important AUDIENCE PARTICIPATION show on dating skills. Sure, I can have all the answers and share my knowledge and dating horror stories, but its much more fun to hear about yours! Weve all learned from experience. Lets discuss first date blunders and what SHOULD be talked about on a first date. The call-in number is 347-327-9215!

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Black Men Refuse to be Accountable for Their Failures - Apr 27,2013

2013-04-26 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Dr. Alduan Tartt has a video on You Tube entitled Why Cant Successful Black Women Find a Black Man (follow up) which I suggest you watch before tonights broadcast. Well be going over the 7 points that HE says men are looking for in a woman before they settle down. Though I am sure Dr. Tartt is a very nice man, his instructions about what black men are looking for in a wife are egocentric and ridiculous. To me, any black woman that would sign on for such labor intensive caretaking of a grown man is nothing but a fool. Dr. Tartt and other black men like Steve Harvey all write books and promote themselves as experts, telling black women what they must do, be and say to "get" a black man. Such mandates leave me with three questions: What is it that a woman who marries a man with these attitudes really getting out of the deal? Could these lists be nothing but a set-up for the black woman to assume all responsibility for black men and their failures? Why do black men blame their behavior and failings on black women - and why are black women so eager to accept that blame? Why wont black men accept accountability and responsibility for their own behavior, actions, lack of action and failures? Why are they so eager to push all that they become or fail to achieve onto black women? Should be an interesting show as I return to BlogTalk after a lengthy hiatus. Hope you can join us! Call in number is 347-327-9215.

Alduan Tartt | The Ring Formula | single black women | failure to be accountable | successful black women find a man

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Women Making The First Move Pros and Cons - Nov 26,2012

2012-11-25 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Its damn near 2013 and modern women enjoy all kinds of freedoms that were forbidden or deemed unladylike generations ago. However, is there a line to how far women should go to be modern and assertive when it comes to romance? When a woman sees what she wants and goes after it, does her taking the initiative emasculate the object of her affections? Do men really like women making the first move on him? Are such women viewed differently by race, by age, by socioeconomic status? Is it different if the woman goes after another female in a same gender relationship pairing? If a man is shy or insecure, will he respond more positively to a woman saying she thinks hes cute and heres her number, or is he just like the other guys waiting for the opportunity to step to the woman he really wants? When a woman gets at a dude is it that most males respond nicely just to be polite, even though they have absolutely no real interest in the woman or what she is talking about? How far is too far when the modern woman takes the bull by the horn and goes after the man she wants? Lets talk about it! Call in to 347-327-9215.

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The Shut Up Ring and Other Games Men Play - Nov 19,2012

2012-11-18 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Woman gets an engagement ring and she is very happy. We wait and wait for a wedding inviation but none comes. How long should an engagement be before a woman becomes suspicious that she has been given what I call a SHUT UP ring! Well also talk about other ways women are put on hold and strung along in relationships, thinking they have something while the guy is laughing the entire time. Call in and talk about love, commitment, dating, engagements and marriage at 347-327-9215.

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Are Black Women Stupid When it Comes to Men? - Nov 12,2012

2012-11-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Are we saying that this applies to every single black woman in the universe? Certainly not, but there are some serious problems with black women when it comes to how they view, vet, assess and establish boundaries with black men. Are we saying that black women are the only race of women that are stupid over men? Certainly not, but there is a dominant culture of religious based male superiority/female submission and neediness in the black community. Black womens socialization about the necessity of giving her all to get and keep a man fuels much of the dysfunction in black male/female relationships. There are many aspects of stupdity to discuss. Hope you can join us. The call-in number is 347-327-9215

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Choosing a Mate Based on Looks - Nov 05,2012

2012-11-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Men value female beauty highly. Beautful women tend to get more male attention (wanted or not), better job opportunities, and often higher calibre husbands. Even if a man doesnt want to marry the beautiful woman he is seeing, he knows her market value is very high and that he will have to be willing to pay top dollar to get her time and attention. Since men focus on physical beauty as a measuring standard for selecting a date and a wife, is an unattractive woman wrong for getting a little help to raise her stock? How far should a woman go to improve her appearance? How far is TOO far? And if a man likes what he sees, is a woman obligated to tell him how she created the look he claims to love? Why do men pick a woman to love with their EYES instead of with their HEART? Lets talk about it! This should be a very interesting show and I hope you can join us. Call 347-327-9215.

women and beauty | men want beautiful women | physical attraction in dating | how men choose a wife | dating unattractive ugly women

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Can Geeky Girls Get Male Attention - Nov 03,2012

2012-11-02 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Single male geeks get a lot of sympathy and support for their dating woes and lack of female attention. Even player types of guys get tired of the fast track and seek to marry and settle down. With the vast numbers of single women in the world, how is it that a single black male can say he is having a problem finding a suitable mate? Could it be that these men are still overlooking the geeky girls from high school and college that were shy, quiet and studious? Could it be that there are millions of good single black women that just werent populr and didnt have The Body, so males gave them no attention? Why is it that we as a community always give a voice to black male "nerds" who cant get a woman and are late bloomers, however we never do the same for the quirky black girls who are also late bloomers. Who do these girls marry? How do they end up navigating the dating world? Do nice girls finish last? Lets talk about it! Call in number is 347-327-9215.

geeky black girls | dating nerds dating geeks | dating single black computer geeks | single black women marriage | why cant I find someone to love

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Settling vs Compromising - Should We Settle for Good Enough? - Oct 22,2012

2012-10-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Scenario: A young woman (lets call her Lisa) is set up on a date by a friend well call Sue. Lisa had been asking people to introduce her to a different type of guy than she usually dates. Sue set her up with an engineer that she says is "a perfectly nice, gentlemanly, goodhearted man with an actual career who did not take her to a restaurant with a dollar menu, paid for the entire date, and not once, NOT ONCE did he ask for or suggest that she owed him anything." Sue is annoyed that Lisa doesnt want to see the guy again because he "didnt have the right swag. Sue says "she clearly knew from the start that she was going to go out with a biomed engineer...since when do they have swag? And since when does swag trump a good man with a job?" Well, those are all great questions. Lets talk about dating, swag, attraction and the difference between compromise and settling on a partner. Should we settle for someone that doesnt really do it for us just because that person is a good catch on paper?

what is swag | blind dating tips | dating geeks | men with swag | compromise settling in relationships

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One Foot In and One Foot Out of the Relationship - Oct 18,2012

2012-10-17 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women complain that many men are distant emotionally in their relationships, giving her the feeling that he has one foot in and one foot out of the relationship. Hes not really 100% there, but he isnt leaving either. What is it that makes men be this way? Why do women accept it? Lets talk about it! Call in to 347-327-9215.

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Feminity, The Hood and Black Women Trying to Be Men - Oct 15,2012

2012-10-14 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

How is femininity defined for the modern woman? Is the definition of feminine different for black women than it is women of other races? How does "the hood" dampen the ability of the black woman to express traditional femininity? Its a real dliemma for black women that must be strong to survive the hood life, while at the same time black men and women express disdain for "the strong black woman" slapping her with the label of "acting manly" when she stands up for herself or behaves aggressively. What does femininity mean for the modern woman? Well also discuss the Cleveland Transit Authority incident where a 25 year old black female attacked a 59 year old male bus driver and got punched to the moon for putting her hands on him. Was her behavior demonstrating a lack of femininity or just plain stupidity? Call in to 347-327-9215 with your thoughts.

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Are Single Women Afraid to Establish Boundaries with Men? - Jul 08,2012

2012-07-07 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Discussion of several scenarios where women faced tough choices about the behaviors and statements of people in their lives. Some women reacted swiftly and decisively to situations they felt were suspect or harmful; other women were hesitant and timid, and often made excuses to cover for men. Why do women seem afraid to draw firm lines with regards to acceptable behavior from the men in their lives? On this, our final show of the 2011-2012 season, well sit down and talk about women, men, love and relationshps! Join in the conversation by calling 347-327-9215.

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The Pros and Cons of Dating Online for Single Women - Jul 02,2012

2012-07-01 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Online dating is a $1.5 billion industry - surpassing the internet adult movie/photo industry in revenue for the past several years. But when you look at it, has spending all that money actually increased the national marriage number? What motivates people to put a profile online? With all the players and married men online looking for extracurricular "fun" does a sincere woman have a chance? What can you tell about someone by the pictures they post and the profile they create? Are single women really finding the man of their dreams online? Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion!

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Dating Whining Beyotch Made Men - Jul 01,2012

2012-06-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What is up with the new generation of black men that once rejected, cant seem to get over it. For years they will make video after video and post them up on You Tube, Generation-X or other social media sites. Why the never-ending whining? Real men dont make dozens upon dozens of videos to put down women because they are hurt - they are too busy out and about living their lives getting a new woman! Call 347-327-9215 with your questions or comments.

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Should Single Black Women Date Broke Stingy Men? - Jun 28,2012

2012-06-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Some men think all dates should be Dutch treat, or cost no more than $10. If a woman refuses to date a guy with a $10 dating policy, does that mean she is a gold digger? If a woman goes out with a guy on a $10 date, is there a greater opportunity for true love to blossom? Why do some men think being stingy is the best way to find love? Why is it that only black women are accused of being Gold Diggers if they want a guy a take them out and treat them like they are special? Is there any reason to date a broke stingy man?

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Dating Single Black Men - Confident or Dominant? - Jun 25,2012

2012-06-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What do you say to a man that says "all women, even if its unintentional, like jerks and douches because they are manlier than a nice guy. Because they dominate, perhaps what people would call a dick. Men that are douches get more women than nice guys." Sadly, there are many men that believe that what women are attracted to is dominant, domineering men when in reality what women are attracted to is nice guys with CONFIDENCE. Since most guys dont seem to understand the difference and how women perceive them as weak, just a friend or masculineconfident, well discuss it. Learn the difference between the dominant or domineering man and the man of confidence, as well as what each of those behaviors looks like in a relationship. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the broadcast, or log on and participate in the lively chatroom discussions. One of the most popular and long-running shows on BlogTalkRadio - learn how to Date Smarter, Not Harder!

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Weaves Relaxers or Natural - Black Women and Their Hair - Jun 21,2012

2012-06-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

When you encounter a black woman that wears her hair natural be it a fro, puff, twists, locs, braids or a curly style - how do you feel about her? As more and more black women drop weaves, relaxers and flat irons in favor of natural hairstyles, they find that the change in hair is having a great effect on their dating options. Does natural hair attract a different type of guy than one that prefers a black woman to have her hair long and flowing in a weaved or relaxed style? Your comments and personal stories with regards to the following are welcome! : Women that made the change from relaxed and/or weaved hair to natural; Who think natural hair on black women looks bad or unprofessional; Believe that natural hair is beautiful and a sign of confidence and intelligence in women; That would never date a woman with natural hair. Black women and the dilemma of "what do I do with my hair?" discussed tonight on the Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show! The call-in number is 347-327-9215. Please join us beginning at 6:00 p.m. PACIFIC/9:00 p.m. EASTERN.

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Men Lie - They Really Want to Marry a Ho Not a Housewife! - Jun 18,2012

2012-06-17 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Men will say they want a nice girl, one that is good morals, a good mother, blah blah blah, but that isnt what they look for. That isnt what turns them on. And that is not what they think about when they imagine themselves married. We will discuss the programming men get about what they SHOULD look for in a wife vs. what they really want and are just too scared to admit. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

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Creflo Dollar Normalized Abuse of Black Women/Children - Jun 11,2012

2012-06-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Black Women Have Normalized Physical and Emotional Abuse Since the news broke on Friday June 8th 2012 hat “Mega-church” pastor Creflo A. Dollar had been arrested for assaulting his 15-year-old daughter, the black blogosphere has been in an uproar. Responses range from rationalization that he was merely doing his job as a father, to the disbeliving and skeptical, to the blind faith that pastor Dollar can do no wrong. We cannot understand any justification for a 50 year old adult male who represents himself as a man of God tackling his daughter to the ground, slapping her, choking her, and beating her with his shoe. Many black people corporal punishment as a form of parental discipline; but when does meting out a just punishment cross boundaries and become terrorizing, physically abusing and degrading a child? Why is such violence towards females normalized in the black community? Why are black women so eager to justify physical assaults on children by grown men, and to protect and make excuses for anything vile or violent done by a pastor? These are the types of things discussed in detail in Deborrah Coopers new book The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Prey. Well discuss the book, Creflo Dollar, how black women have normalized abuse of females in the name of love and God. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion!

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Are Relationships With Men Beneficial for Women? - Jun 04,2012

2012-06-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

When asked the question "what are the particular benefits of relationships with men for modern women?" there were crickets. After the discussion we had about Steve Harveys best-seller where he said men only give three things to women in relationships, but women give 100s of things to men - we have to ask the question... why do women still seek out relationships and beg men for love and commitment? Lets discuss the pros and cons of love, dating, relationships and marriage for women. To pariticpate in the discussion, call in to 347-327-9215.

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Why Nice Guys Don't Get Picked by Women - May 28,2012

2012-05-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The troop of Nice Guys cry and whine a lot that women dont want them and choose dogs and thugs over them. In reality, women dont choose you guys because you whine and cry and act like a spoiled brat! Women might want you if you let your light shine and stopped complaining all the time.

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The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Prey Discussed - May 22,2012

2012-05-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The 2010 blockbuster article which stunned Black America entitled The Black Church: How Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely went viral and became the topic of discussion on hundreds of radio shows, black newspapers and magazines, on social media sites, and on websites throughout blogosphere. On May 30, 2012 Deborrah Cooper will release her long-awaited book on the black church and black women. The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Prey takes the articles concepts and expands them to address the many ways that black women are manipulated, controlled and preyed upon in black churches across the country.

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Wolf in Sheep's Clothing - Author Victoria Levine - May 21,2012

2012-05-20 :: Ms HeartBeat

Victoria Levine is an artist, author, poet and relationship consultant. She wrote her book, Wolf In Sheeps Clothing for these reasons: The world of relationships can be confusing when people have hidden agendas. She believes in truth and honesty, within connections and has created a guide, taking you into the minds of players and their behavior patterns, to help bring skills and awareness to better see through the patterns of deception, using her own life experiences, wisdom and observations as a source to pull from. Victoria has identified 18 player types and their behavior patterns, shining the light on deception allowing the truth to rise to the surface. This helps us all to make wiser choices in who we allow into our lives, surrounding ourselves with authentic, like minded individuals who are who they say they are, walking their talk not just talking. It is time for the men to man up and the women to wake up. No settling for fakes. This goes for men and women, no one wants to get played!

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How Steve Harvey Act Like a Lady Fails Black Women - May 12,2012

2012-05-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Is there any value at all in Steve Harveys dating advice guide for women? No. For the woman that wants to empower herself, make choices in her own best interest, and not establish her life to appease the male ego and male judgments about the female need for sensuality and love making, this book is an absolute horror. Its full of double messages, gender blaming and negativity about women. So why did so many black women run out and buy it, believe what a comedian said, and carry his book around like it was the guidebook to life? Dont black women understand that the joke is on them? Join us for an interesting discussion on Steve Harveys book "Act LIke a Lady, Think Like a Man" dissected in a way you have never heard before.

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Top 10 Things Women Do That Mess Up Their Relationships - May 07,2012

2012-05-06 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Typical behaviors of the female that are the root cause of the problems many women have in their romantic partnerships. I know men have issues ladies, but in this instance we are gonna dig in YOUR butts about some of the absolutely, positively crazy things you do and say that are ultimately damaging to your mind, body, heart or spirit - and sometimes all of the above! Join the crew at 5:30 pm PST/8:30 pm EST online or by calling 347-327-9215. Log onto http://www.survivingdating.com for lots of great articles and advice on creating better romantic relationships in your world.

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International Stop Street Harassment Week - Mar 22,2012

2012-03-21 :: Ms HeartBeat

March 18-24th is International Stop Street Harassment Week. Girls and women around the world will hold educational lectures in schools and community forums, marches, social media blasts, and distribute literature explaining what street harassment is and why it must stop. The Information Superhighway has provided men with the option of harassing women online in chat rooms and on social media with sexual innuendo, sexist comments, and outright solicitation. Offline, many males think that their catcalls, whistling, public masturbation, flashing, groping, stalking, and assault on the bodies and minds of females is "flattering". In reality, gender-based street harassment makes public places unfriendly and even scary for many girls and women. This type of behavior is especially prevalent in the U.S. in urban areas heavily populated by Black and Latino men. Join us for a discussion on what constitutes street harassment and why so many American men think harassing women in public places and on the street is an appropriate way to behave. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the interesting discussion!

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Patriarchial Oppression of Black Women Using God - Mar 19,2012

2012-03-18 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Oppression: "the exercise of authority or power in a burdensome, cruel, or unjust manner; the systematic; socially supported mistreatment and exploitation of a group or category of people by anyone". Tonights special guest is Sis. LeTava Mabilijengoan, the author of When Waging War Against the Oppression of Black Women, Our Only Hope is to Kill God! This promises to be an intellectually provocative examination into the relationship between patriarchal leadership, religion and the oppression of Black women. Not for the faint of heart; this occasionally cut-throat and shocking exploit may quake the very core of the Western colonized belief system and Black womens unrelenting focus on Jesus as their savior.

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Black Macho and The Streets - What Makes a Black Male a Man? - Mar 12,2012

2012-03-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Black scholars writing on Black male/female relationships tend to agree that they are problematic. However, what they do not agree on are the causes of the problems between Black men and women. Some believe that Black men are the problem while others contend that Black women contribute disproportionately to Black male/female conflict. Its time to examine the ways in which men and women are socialized to not only enter, but to navigate relationships with each other. What are the ways socialization affects how Black men and women perform specific gender scripts and sex roles in romantic relationships? Our special guest is Kedrick Griffin, Senior DIrector of Prograns of Men Can Stop Rapes program for young men. Hell share the goals of their "Men of Strength (MOST)" Club and its impact on the rape culture so prevalent in the Black community. How does the sex role socialization of Black males and how their internalized sex role definitions shape their behavior and interactions with Black women and their expectations of how a Black woman should perform in a relationship? These and many more questions answered during tonights show. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion!

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I'm Single Because Civil War Between Black Men and Women - Mar 05,2012

2012-03-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Tonight we interview the host of Mindstream Radio and the producer of an independent film on dating and relationships in the Black communitty entitled "Im Single Because: The Civil War Between Black Men and Women." The rate of marriage is at an all time low in the African American community; and is the lowest among all other racial groups in the United States. Upon doing research, we came across a trending topic on twitter with persons of color, ages ranging from 25-45 years, stating why they are single and unmarried. In 2001, according to data collected by the U.S Census: African Americans are the most uncoupled ethnicity at 43.3 percent for black men, and 41.9 percent for black women in contrast to 27.4 percent and 20.7 percent for whites respectively. In a 2006 Washington Post article written by Washington writer, Joy Jones, Marriage Is For White People. It's been her observation that women are being hit the hardest, and that marriage may not be as possible or sustainable as she would like. Since marriage isn't a possibility, black women turn to negated effects like having babies out of wedlock, birth control, divorce and remarriage which has completely transformed the social landscape. In our conclusion, we believe a cultural war is being waged against the institution of marriage in the African American community. We decided to do an in depth documentary film on why peoples of color are single. Join us tonight as we discuss the issue of singleness in the Black community with producer/director Adam Butler. Call 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts!

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10 Traits Women Must Have to be Considered Worthy Wives - Feb 27,2012

2012-02-26 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

In honor of our fourth anniversary on BlogTalk, were going to analyze some of the behaviors of modern women. With the marriage rate falling nationally amongst ALL racial groups, what is it that men are looking for in a woman before they feel comfortable about wifing her up. Misogyny, abuse and assault of women, unisex clothing and hairstyles, skinny jeans on men and the effeminization of the male gender - do these things have a strong impact on mens choices in women or choosing to marry period? Share your thoughts! All of our loyal listeners are invited to come by and share your thoughts on what you want to hear this coming year, which shows and guests were your favorites, what you learned and how this show helped you improve your relationships as well. Wed love to hear from you! The call-in number is 347-327-9215. Log onto www.blogtalkradio.com/asheartbeat to chat.

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Women Less Interested in Good Romantic Relationship Than Men - Feb 23,2012

2012-02-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

A recent Washington Post/Kaiser Foundation poll of black women in America revealed findings that challenge long-held beliefs that women seek love and commitment more than men. This comphreneisive survey, released January 2012, says much differently. There are also many other insights into the thinking and expectations of Black women vs. those of White women, White men, and Black men regarding religion, children, work, health and marriage. Join me tonight to discuss these findings and what they may mean for Black America. Call 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts and opinions, or log onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.

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Why Do People Lie So Much? - Feb 21,2012

2012-02-21 :: Ms HeartBeat

From my show on Inner Light Radio recorded on February 21, 2011. Discussion of the types of lies singles tell, why they tell them, and which gender lies the most and about what. Also how to tell if someone is lying and what you can do to be more truthful and honest yourself.

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Female Submission in Dating and Marriage Deux - Feb 20,2012

2012-02-19 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Tonight we continue our discussion on the concept of submission, and why it is so important to men in general, but particularly Black men. We address the question of why men insist on having the upper hand in any situation involving a female, demanding that a woman "submit" herself to their dominance and control? In light of the Congressional hearings on women and mens fear of birth control, the battle to overturn Roe v. Wade, and the war being waged on women around the world, I think it relevant to reference Valerie Solanas 1967 S.C.U.M. Manifesto. Finally, when a man believes that female submission is a good thing for a relationship or marriage, what exactly is it that he is expecting? Must a woman submit for her man to be happy? Lets discuss the whole concept of submission and its appropriateness in the modern relationship and marriage. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the lively discussion.

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Ten Traits Men Must Have to Be a Worthy Husband - Feb 16,2012

2012-02-15 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What are the qualities a man must have to be considered a great prospect for a long-term relationship and/or marriage? What a woman should be looking for in a potential husband is much different than what makes a man a fun boyfriend. Lets talk about dating, marriage, and mate selection criteria for the modern woman. Call 347-327-9215 to share your thought live on the air.

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When Valentine's Day Sucks - Feb 13,2012

2012-02-12 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Last year the website AshleyMadison put out a press release that said the day after Valentines Day was the biggest day of the year for women to cheat. With that in mind, why do so many men resist doing anything for the woman they are dating (or married to) on Valentines Day? A discussion on the needs women have for romance and attention that their men are not meeting. A mans stubborn refusal to go out of his way for his woman at least once per year could end up not only in the dog house, but alone. Call 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts and experiences with Valentines Day, cheating women, and what men can do to prevent the latter while stepping up to do what they should on the former!

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Single Black Women Suffering From Bridal Depression - Feb 09,2012

2012-02-08 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Young Black women are suffering from depression due the fact that they are single and unloved. Stories abound about the many young Black women go through four years of college with less than five dates. With network television airing dozens of bridal-related shows featuring beaming young White women, and statistics on marriage in the Black community at shockinglyh low levels, is it any wonder that hundreds of thousands of black females suffer from depression? This is a relatively new phenenomena that we need to discuss. To share your thoughts or experiences with this topic, call 347-327-9215.

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Margaret Sanger Planned Parenthood and Black America - Feb 05,2012

2012-02-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

All women have the right to control their fertility in the U.S. However, this was not always the case. And there is a contingent of Black men that resent and attack Planned Parenthood as being a racist organization started by Margaret Sanger, a woman who they believe promoted the death of Black babies and the elimination of the Black race. Our discussion tonight will revolve around the recent decision (and reversal) by the Susan G. Komen foundation to elminate their annual grant to Planned Parenthood. We will also discuss the reasons so many Black people believe Planned Parenthood means eradication of the Black race. Call in to 347-327-9215 to share your thoughts.

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Single Black Women Dating Down Men With Potential - Jan 30,2012

2012-01-29 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Single black women are frequently called upon by male relationship experts to date men not on their level educationally, professionally, mentally and economically - to find men with potential and give "a good brotha" a chance. Why is it that Black women are the only ethnicity of female told to accept men of lesser quality as mates? Why is it that Black women are the only ethnicity of female told that seeking a man that is at her level or even above financially means she a gold digger? Why is it that only Black women seeking a man of education, intelligence and emotional stability is deemed to have standards that are too high? Kaptan Solo of Generaiton-X.Net is my special guest tonight. Join us for this controversial and heated discussion by calling 347-327-9215. Read Can Dating Stanards Be Too High? on Surviving Dating!

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Why Do People Lie So Much? - Jan 28,2012

2012-01-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Both online and offline in the real world, folks lie lie and lie some more - most times for no discernable reason. What is the reason that single men lie? Do their reasons vary greatly from the reasons women lie? Discussion includes a breakdown of the lies women tell men about their bedroom performance to protect their male ego. Ms. HeartBeat gives a surprise lesson on how men and women can communicate honestly without being hurtful. She also tells men can become better lovers by learning their womans body. Also discussion of the top reasons people lie and the top lies singles tell.

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Female Submission in Dating and Marriage - Jan 25,2012

2012-01-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Have you ever asked yourself why religions around the world promote the concept of female submission, and why men, especially Black men, are so enamoured of the word "submit?" When a man believes that female submission is a good thing, what is it that he is expecting? And why do Black men believe that Black women must submit to them in order to create a happy relationship and marriage? Lets discuss the whole concept of submission and its appropriateness in the modern marriage. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

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Gold Digging Done Right - Leaving With Millions! - Jan 23,2012

2012-01-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Vanessa and Kobe Bryant reached a settlement in their divorce earlier this week. She will receive three Southern California mansions and $75 million in cash. Folks are UPSET that Kobes wife of ten years should get that kind of money when she hasnt done anything but "pop out babies" and "get her hair and nails done." The loudest complaints are coming from the Black community, with comparisons being made about Vanessas race, as was done about Elin Woods. Basically, the angry voices are saying that if these women were Black, they would never have received such generous and quick settlement offers. Lets talk about this case and the many others involving wealthy men and their divorces. Is there a difference in how we perceive the value of the marriage and of his wife if a man is poor vs. if he is wealthy? Is there a difference in how we perceive the value of the wifes services if she is Black vs. non-black? Has marriage outlived its usefulness for women except as a method of capital gains? Lets talk about it! Call into 347-327-9215 with your questions or comments.

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Black Men Black Women and Polygyny - Jan 16,2012

2012-01-15 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

With Black men rejecting religion and the commitments of marriage and family, why the interest in and push for polygynous marriages? Black men across the country repeatedly state that monogamy is counter to their nature and that through marriage, women attempt to control male sexuality. Other men say that polygamous unions would be a way to resolve the issue of high rate of single black women in the U.S., and to ensure that children have fathers around. Surprisingly, there are growing numbers of Black women that agree with this position, and believe that polygamous marriages should be made legal. Is polygyny a viable option for black families and single black women, or is it nothing but a new game to pimp women and the latest booty hustle? Share your opinions by calling 347-327-9215.

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My Boyfriend Wants a Threesome - Jan 09,2012

2012-01-08 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Ladies, would you give your man a freaky birthday or anniversary gift, like a massage with a "happy ending" or another woman in bed with yall? Or do you see this as threatening t0 your relationship and nothing youd want to do? Or perhaps you see it as no big deal if the situation is controlled - just a fun way to spend an evening? Lets talk about the impact having more than two people in bed can have on your relationship, both short and long-term. Join us for an interesting discussion by calling 347-327-9215 or logging onto www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.

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It is 2012 - Why Are You Still Single? - Jan 02,2012

2012-01-01 :: Ms HeartBeat
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Its the first day of a new year, 2012 to be exact. And you and your cronies Me Myself and I celebrated another New Years eve together. With Valentines Day coming up its time to get real with yourself and figure out why youre still single after all these years. Have you ever asked yourself why? Are you looking for unattainable perfection, or are you secretly happy about being single and have no desire to couple up? Lets talk about the possible 365 reasons youre still single though you claim you dont want to be. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the live, on-air discussion.

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Childhood Sexual Abuse in the Black Community - Dec 12,2011

2011-12-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Within the last 18 months there have been dozens of stories in the news detailing sexual assaults on Black youths, both male and female. Most of the accused perpetrators have been trusted and influential members of the community - people no one would suspect of being a pedophile. Statistics on the sexual assaults of children under the age of 18 are shocking and deeply disturbing. Trafficking, molestation, rape, and prostitution have become commonplace. The majority of these crimes by Black men against Black children being tolerated and seemingly accepted in our communities. Why? What s going on with Black men? Why are these beasts not being arrested and prosecuted en masse? Why the silence by women and lack of action by allegedly "good black men?" Guest experts include Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball of doctorjoyce.com, and Sylvia Coleman of blacksurvivors.org. Sylvia stated: "What concerns me most are the adult sexual abuse survivors who fail to recognize the connection between the current problems in their life (i.e. relationship, job failure, parenting, etc) and the sexual abuse they experienced in their childhood." Our well-informed panel will provide you with answers to these questions and many more during this explosive broadcast. Take the Survey on Child Abuse in the Black Community by clicking here. To participate in the live on-air discussion, call 347-327-9215.

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Single Mothers Unwed Fathers and Financial Abortions - Dec 10,2011

2011-12-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

When a man and a woman participate in consensual sex, and the woman ends up pregnant, does the man who impregnated her have any say-so in what happens with the pregnancy? There is a growing group of men and women that believe men should have a say if they dont want to parent a child, and should be able to "abort" themselves financially from any responsiblity to the child if the mother insists on having it. Men say they want the same options women have when it comes to birthing a child. Yet, over the course of human existence men have repeatedly abandoned women and children in droves, often to move on and start entirely new families with other women. Thats the mans option. Women have different options, including not bringing a pregnancy to term. Men and women both have choices, their choices are just different. Many say the solution is "if a man does not want to accept that the woman has the final say in the matter of whether or not to carry a pregnancy to term then he should not be having sex with her, simple as that." How do you feel about the subject? Should fathers be allowed to abort financial responsiblity to the child he created after enjoying the sex that created the baby with a fertile female? Read Mens Right to Choose: Opting Out of Fatherhood With Financial Abortions.Then log on and participate in the discussion by calling 347-327-9215.

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What Does Wife Mean to Modern Men? - Dec 05,2011

2011-12-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Some men really look forward to being married due to their upbringing and socialization, while others are content to be perennial bachelors. However ALL men have expectations about what the role of "my wife" entails. Do men really want the partnership that women envision, or are they really looking for a Mommy that provides bedroom services? Lets discuss modern men and their thoughts about the institution of marriage as it pertains to their expectations, demands and feelings about a woman becoming their wife. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion "But Youre My Wife!"

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Husbands, Divorce and Modern Marriage in Black America - Dec 04,2011

2011-12-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Tonights show will discuss what women expect from marriage. With women filing for 75% of divorces in the United States, is a one size fits all expectation reasonable? Are women more realistic about marriage than men who think getting a divorce because a woman gains weight is a valid reason to leave? Call 347-327-9215 with your questions and comments.

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Escape From The Friend Zone - Nov 28,2011

2011-11-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The friend zone is like the penalty box of dating, only you can never get out. Once a girl decides youre her friend, its game over. Youve become a complete non-sexual entity in her eyes, like her brother, or a lamp so says Ryan Reynolds in Just Friends. Yet, some men and women seemed doomed to live their life in The Friend Zone. Why do we put perfectly nice potential suitors in the friend zone? How do some people get out and go on to create happy long-term relationships? What can be done to get out of The Friend Zone and into the Love Zone? Join us for a fun and enlightening discussion on modern dating on Sunday, November 27, 2011 at 5:30 p.m. PST/8:30 p.m. EST. Call in to 347-327-9215 to participate in the live discussion.

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Are Young Men Being Raised to Be Sociopaths? - Nov 21,2011

2011-11-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Sociopaths do not wear a sign or a tag that identifies them as dangerous men, and most sociopaths look completely normal - even friendly and trustworthy. A woman normally finds out her man is a socipath only after she has become involved. When a man pretends to love and knowingly plays manipulative games to control a womans reality, his behavior makes him a sociopath. What are the traits of a sociopath, and how can a woman identify them in advance and protect herself? Are most men being socialized to be sociopaths when it comes to women? We have the answers to your questions in what is sure to be a shockingly eye opening and controversial conversation. Dr. Fran Walfish is a leading child and family psychotherapist with a stellar list of media credits including The Doctors, CBS and ABC, Parents Magazine, and dozens of others, and 15 years at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center. Log onto Dr.FranWalfish.Com for more information Donna Andersen is the creator of LoveFraud.Com a website and blog that teaches people how to recognize and recover from sociopaths. She is also the author of a book, Love Fraud--How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. Donna learned about sociopaths the hard way--by marrying one. Join the discussion by calling 347-327-9215 or by logging onto Are Young Men Being Raised to Be Sociopaths?

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Dating vs. Hooking Up - Do We Know How to Date Anymore? - Nov 14,2011

2011-11-13 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Apparently, dating is a lost art form! Spending time getting to know someone, patiently discovering who and what they are over a period of months seems to be a concept that is foreign to singles in 2011. Men dont want to pay for dates and women allow them to get away with it. In the place of dating is the male-centered hookup - instant physical involvement with false intimacy that uisually leads to heartbreak. Why then are so many females willing to involve themselves in casual encounters or shaky "relationships" with totally inappropriate men? Can women alone turn this dating thing around and change our society and thereby the world?

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Engagement Rings and Marriage Proposals, - Nov 10,2011

2011-11-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

An engagement ring is a declaration that the woman, by wearing it on her hand, has been reserved for marriage by her future husband. Wearing his ring symbolizes and reminds the wearer of a promise shes made, and also serves as notice to other potential suitors that they need not waste their time on THIS woman. Since the average engagement lasts 18-24 months, an engagement ring is an important element in the whole "were getting married" phenomenon. Why then do so many Black men resent the expectation that they present their future bride with a ring? Could buying a ring really be a key reason men do not marry?

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Double Standards- The VIrtuous Woman's Perceived Value - Nov 07,2011

2011-11-06 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Minister Louis Farrakhan said it the other day "a virtuous woman is more valuable than silver and gold." So it got me thinking - why do Black men place so much value on a womans virtue, chastity, lack of sexual history or knowledge? They hate it if she has experience, other lovers, other mens children. Yet they hold themselves to no such such judgments or standards. These attitudes about women are passed down from generation to generation of Black men, so that a womans perceived value remains generalized and measured almost exclusively by what has gone on with her body - with very little consideration to her mind or other qualities. So lets talk about it as we start off the fall season of the show with a bang! Call 347-327-9215 so participate in the live discussion.

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We Are Sick of You! - Jul 17,2011

2011-07-17 :: Ms HeartBeat

Discussion of the recent spate of women in the news that are accused of cutting off the genitals of their husbands. The news reports share the arrest information, but what we want to know is "what would motivate a woman to behave in such drastic behaviors towards her husband?"

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Not Tonight Dear Or Ever! - Jun 11,2011

2011-06-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Low desire is a common complaint of couples that report to have an otherwise wonderful relationship. What are some of the reasons that not wanting to have sex is a permanent state of being for many single adult men and women? We will also discuss how childhood secrets, freaky fetishes, medical conditions and unusual sexual fantasies might also contribute to a lack of desire. Join us for our last show of the season (returning September 2011) as we discuss the reasons so many singles have absolutely no interest in sex at all. The call in number is 347-327-9215!

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About Men - Men in Relationships Men in Love - Jun 06,2011

2011-06-05 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women often hear that men are concerned with a womans fertility and her ability to bear children, while excusing themselves from such limits due to mens ability to produce sperm well into their senior years. Both men and women have thus ignored scientific proof that men have an upper limit on their healthy reproductive years just like women do. Tonight well also discuss male birth control options vs. female responsibility for it, why older men eschew condoms and how that is affecting HIV/AIDS rates amongst seniors, and the reasons women should pay attention to the age of their mate and the impact aging sperm has in producing children with birth defects, autism and mental illness. Older men have other issues that women should be concerned with as well which is why I advocate that women be with younger men. Join us as we discuss the aging male, reproduction, birth control for men and other mating conflicts. The call in number is 347-327-9215.

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Why Are There So Many Single Black Men? - Jun 01,2011

2011-05-31 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

For the past few years Black women and their singleness have been placed front and center in dozens of mainstream media outlets. From the NY Times and Washington Post newspapers, to CNN and Nightline - White people in the U.S. are fascinated with the concept that something is wrong with Black women because so many of them are single. But what about Black men? The percentage of Black men that are single is neck and neck with that of Black women. And if its true that Black women are looking for husbands and want to marry, why are there so many unmarried Black men then? On this, our last show of "Hot Shows of May," well look at possible reasons with our usual critical eye and delve into the social issues and politics that shift the focus from Black men and their singleness, which is where the spotlight belongs.

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The Myth of the Good Man and the Nice Guy is Just That - May 23,2011

2011-05-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Due to patriarchy all men are exactly the same. Some might be slightly more human and less broken and damaged than others. But this fact means that there is no such thing as a "good man." Men are all the same in their attitudes towards women, though some are less severe than others. So the "nice guy," ... the good guy... are all male fabricated myths that women keep alive to maintain hope of finding a man worthy of marriage and partnership should be eliminated. The myth of the good man and nice guy needs to die. There are no good men, just some men who decided not to lord their maleness and masculinity over women. However, all men hold the views and values that having an education and a job with benefits is enough to make a woman pick him over other men. This focus on materialism makes men believe that all women can be bought with a price or that women are gold diggers. In reality, these beliefs are exhibitions of male supremacy and sexism. Do you agree? Call in to share your views with our special guest, womanist blogger Lucretia Pierce at 347-327-9215.

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Black Women in America - Dispelling Myths and Stereotypes - May 16,2011

2011-05-15 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

As black women continue to rise in educational and professional accomplishments, they must battle the negative, destructive stereotypes portrayed in the media. What drives these myths and misconceptions? Why are black women portrayed as always strong, never vulnerable. Why do black women believe they cant have the "American Dream" that women of other races expect as a matter of course - a successful career, a devoted husband, and a family? Why are so many accomplished, professional black women suffering from depression, stress-related illnesses and loneliness? Sophia A. Nelson is a respected national columnist and political/social commentator for CNN, FOX News, MSNBC, NPR, BET, BBC, Washington Post, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Essence and Huffington Post and dozens of other top tier media outlets. She is also the author of an exciting new book: Black Woman Redefined: Dispelling Myths and Discovering Fulfillment in the Age of Michelle Obama. Sophia stops by The Date Smarter Not Harder Show to discuss her well-researched and important book which delves into the challenges faced by the 21st century black woman, and what she can do to come out on top! The studio call-in number is 347-327-9215 - please join us.

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Men You Think You Have Mad Bedroom Skills - NOT! - May 09,2011

2011-05-08 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Around the world men think they are really putting it down on women when in reality, mens lack of skills in the bedroom make women roll their eyes in frustration and avoid having sex. How can men be completely and utterly ignorant about what their women need physically to be sexually satisfied? Why are so many men stubbornly refusing to listen to their partners or to learn how to please her? On this show hundreds of women will share what they want from men mentally, emotionally and physically to help men learn how to stimulate their female partners. Become a memorable lover! Discover how you can have women daydreaming about what you did in bed the night before, and lustfully panting after you instead of bored out of their minds and angry. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the broadcast. Log onto SurvivingDating.Com for other great information on kissing, lovemaking, dating and relationships!

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Do Submissive Women Really Have the Happiest Relationships? - Apr 25,2011

2011-04-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Black men are big fans of the Biblical principle of female submission. However, they conveniently leave out the portion of the scripture that requires they humble and submit themselves to God and that they be married first. Why is it that a female being "submissive" to them is so important to Black men? What is behind the push to make Black women feel guilty for being assertive and demanding in her relationships? And why is it that so many Black women are willing to dumb down their intelligence and turn over their power to men that are nowhere near on their level, just to have a relationship or be married? Could it really be true that Black women are "too" independent as MoNique says? If a woman is submissive, does that relationship really have a greater chance at longevity and happiness than one where the partners are respectful equals? Please join us on Sunday, April 24, 2011 to discuss the whole female submission thing as it affects the Black community. 347-327-9215 is the show call-in number. Please join us! We have a lot to say on the subject and hope you do too!

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Lies Men Tell Women - Apr 18,2011

2011-04-17 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women complain that males lie a lot to them, about pretty much everything. We are going to sit down and hash out some of the most frequent and most damaging lies women are told by men. We will also discuss why women are lied to, what the goal is of the liar, and what women young and old need to know to protect themselves. Remember, just because he SAID it doesnt mean its true! Call 347-327-9215 to join in the discussion, or log on to participate in the online chat.

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A Smothering Kind of Love - Apr 11,2011

2011-04-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Some men are very quick to accuse women of smothering them or being too needy when what she is asking for is quality time and emotional intimacy. Can men really determine the difference between loving, caring and smothering? Do men even know what "smothering" means? Tonight well discuss a working definition of smothering and when loving behaviors are within the realm of normal vs. obsessive. Too many men seem to want relationships solely on their terms; sadly, many view only bedroom activity as "quality time." Lets talk about it! Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion. Log onto SurvivingDating.Com for more great information on dating and relationships.

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She Trapped Him by Getting Herself Pregnant - Mar 28,2011

2011-03-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Can a man truly be "trapped" by a woman with a pregnancy and a child when he had sex with her voluntarily? If a male sabotages a womans birth control to force a pregnancy is she "trapped?" Should a pregnant woman be required to have a child that she doesnt want but the sperm donor does?Should women be required to get abortions if her partner decides he doesnt want to be a father? Should a man that doesnt want to be a father be required to pay child support for a child he does not want? Well also discuss the interesting 2005 Illinois case where a man who claims to have only had oral relations with a woman that inseminated herself with the semen without his knowledge; but she says he knew very well what was going on and they had regular relations. Call 347-327-9215 to participate by phone, or log on to chat at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat

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Effect of Abandonment Issues on Dating Relationships - Mar 21,2011

2011-03-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Insecurity and self-doubt are always symptoms of deeper issues, most involving low self esteem and feelings of abandonment. Having abandonment issues can affect your ability to have a happy and healthy relationship with an individual that is emotionally, physically and sexually available to you. Guest expert Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball will discuss how abandonment issues may control your reactions, behaviors and ultimately lead you to make disappointing romantic choices.

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Church and Sex - Can a Single Sistah Combine The Two? - Mar 19,2011

2011-03-18 :: Ms HeartBeat

Sha Givens, author of SEX and the SINGLE CHURCH SISTER sits in with us to night as we explore the real life challenges confronting single, contemporary women in the new millennium. This faith-based relationship and wellness guide offers insight on key issues few dare to speak candidly about. A desire for intimacy, loneliness and overcoming emotional hurdles while in pursuit of Mr. Right remain at the forefront of the struggle for single church women. Sha will provide practical tips on how to avoid sexual pit-falls, common mistakes women make while choosing a mate, understanding Gods plan for sex and lots more. What happens after the church lights go out? Well talk about it! Call into 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

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At Eleven She Cannot Give Consent - Mar 13,2011

2011-03-12 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

It doesnt matter if she wore makeup. Or if she hung out with older boys at the playground, or if she dressed older than she was. Nor does it matter that she bragged about sex on her Facebook page. All that matters is that she was just 11 years old. Which means she could not have consented to anything, not even if she wanted to. So why are dozens of Black men and women coming to the defense of the 18 Cleveland, Texas rapists arrested recently for assaulting an 11 year old child? Why are so many Black men and women blaming the victim instead of the perpetrators for this heinous crime? Lets talk about the mentality at work. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion, or log onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.

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Post Partum Depression - Why Women Leave Their Children - Mar 08,2011

2011-03-07 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Weve all heard stories of women that decided motherhood and marriage in the traditional self-sacrificial sense was not for them. These women left their children and husbands behind, and went on to pursue their dreams. Why are mothers villified if they decide that motherhood is not for them? Why is a woman expected to sacrifice her time, energy, body, dreams and sometimes her sanity for the sake of her man and children? Join us to discuss this unspoken social expectation of women and how it affects relationships. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

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Romantic Deception - The Lies Men Tell - Mar 06,2011

2011-03-05 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The authors of "Romantic Deception - The Six Lies Men Tell!" Dr. Sally Caldwell and Darlene E. Adams join host Deborrah Cooper to discuss deception in intimate relationships and the deceptive behaviors men display towards single women, and how a woman might recognize (early!) the signs that her new partner is not being honest. Call in to 347-327-9215 to ask questions or participate in the discussion by phone.

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Men Don't Understand Romance - Feb 21,2011

2011-02-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Millions of women are frustrated by the men they love and his lack of romantic gestures. Since romance for women means their man does something for her that is an end in itself and not designed to address basic living necessities or any other end. Women complain that virtually every gesture the male makes is ultimately for the purpose of getting his payoff which is for a women to take her clothes off; he never gives to her just for the pleasure of bringing her joy. Well discuss the concept of romance and why its dead in modern relationships. The call in number is 347-327-9215. Log onto Surviving Dating: Making Smarter Choices in Your Search for Love for more great information about dating and relationships by advice columnist Deborrah Cooper.

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Are Feminists a Better Choice Than a Traditional Wife? - Feb 19,2011

2011-02-18 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Modern men raised by hard working, no nonsense single mothers often appreciate the go getter Mom that raised them to understand that gender roles dont really work anymore. However there is another group of modern men that may also be raised by single Moms (or at least their Mom had most of the child rearing responsibilities) that resent the power their mother had over them. Looking at the Black community as it stands right now and the cultural and economic environment in which we live, which type of woman do you believe is a smarter choice for a wife? Your thoughts are welcome at 347-327-9215! Log onto Surviving Dating: Making Smarter Choices in Your Search for Love for more great information about dating and relationships by advice columnist Deborrah Cooper.

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Valentine's Day - Why Do Single Men Hate Valentine's Day? - Feb 15,2011

2011-02-14 :: Ms HeartBeat

Join host Deborrah Cooper, and special guest relationship expert Ryeal Simms as they discuss the statements and belief system of thousands of single men when it comes to giving of themselves on Valentines Day. Why are so many single men against showing women how much they care on this one day earmarked for lovers? Read Deborrahs article Valentines Day and Selfish Men for more information.

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Get a Clue - Your Man is on the Down Low! - Jan 31,2011

2011-01-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Join us for an eye opening discussion on the hidden life of the down low man - the fella you love, that claims to love you, that you have a long-term relationship with and even children... but who has secret love affairs with other men. This is an important issue in modern dating, as more and more women are contracting HIV from men that enjoy having other men as lovers. Marie, co-author of the shocking book "The Straight Up Truth About The Down-Low" joins us for this captivatingly disturbing discussion. Marie says "ladies, you better wake up! These men are everywhere." Call 347-327-9215 to ask questions or share your own experience with dating men on the down low.

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Live Dating and Relationship Advice with Ms. HeartBeat - Jan 29,2011

2011-01-28 :: Ms HeartBeat

Having a problem with your relationship and need some advice? Ms. HeartBeat is available live to respond to your questions on love, dating, sex, family and romantic relationships on scheduled Friday nights.

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The Male Identified Woman - Jan 24,2011

2011-01-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Explanation of a "male identified" female and how she contributes to the promotion of patriarchial attitudes in both men and women. This episode provides a complete explanation of patriarchy and how it is used in religion, the legal system, society at large, and in our family structure to control females. Learn how male-identified women encourage female submission and codependency. Heated discussion of how female indoctrination into the patriarchial mindset makes women believe that being single is akin to going to the gas chamber! How patriarchial attitudes are harming females around the globe and why women must denounce every aspect of their socialization which accepts male dominance and superiority.

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Dating Love and Relationship Advice with Ms. HeartBeat - Jan 22,2011

2011-01-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Having a problem with your relationship and need some advice? Ms. HeartBeat is available live to respond to your questions on love, dating, sex, family and romantic relationships every Friday night January 21 through February 25th, 2011. Forget wasting your time with that corny redneck Dr. Laura! Call in to 347-327-9215 and get some of the realist, most down to earth, most street smart advice on dating and relationships available with Ms. HeartBeat.

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Emotional Abuse: The Emotionally Abusive Black Man - Jan 17,2011

2011-01-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Emotional abuse is undoubtedly the most common and least recognized type of abuse. No one really talks about it because it isnt a crime and leaves no visible bruises. Not only that, most women dont recognize the attitudes, behaviors and language that wound them deeply and constitute emotional abuse. Sadly, many many Black men speak to Black women in ways that are designed to break their spirits and crush their sense of autonomy and power. Why? To gain the upper hand and control. Join us for this very important discussion and learn to recognize emotional abuse in your personal, familial and professional relationships.

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Cheap Men and Dating - Jan 10,2011

2011-01-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What are the standards which make a man "cheap?" If a guy is overly frugal, is that a turnoff for women? How much money should a man realistically expect to spend on a first date? Second date? Third date? If he wants to prove that he can be a provider and should be considered a viable contender for your husband and the father to your future children? These and more questions will be addressed as we discuss dating a cheap man. Well get started at 5:30 pm (Pacific)/ 8:30 pm (Eastern).

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Low Self Esteem - Dating, Partner Selection and Relationships - Dec 05,2010

2010-12-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What is self esteem, and how are low and high self esteem demonstrated in life and love? How is it that some people have very high self esteem and others have little to none? How can self esteem be developed or increased? And how does having healthy self esteem guides us to make better choices in dating, love, relationships and life in general? We have two great guests for you tonight! Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a nationally known psychotherapist, author, tv and radio commentator. Rapini is also an intimacy and sex counselor, and a certified anger management therapist in Houston. Janine J. Sherman, RN MSN WHNP-BC, is a Womens Health Nurse Practitioner who specializes in the care of adolescent patients. She is a former faculty member at the School of Nursing at the University of Texas Health Science Center in Houston. They are the authors of Start Talking: A Girls Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever Start Talking: A Girls Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever http://www.starttalkingbook.com)

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Elite Black Men - Is There Such a Thing? - Nov 29,2010

2010-11-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Is there such a thing as an "Elite Black Man?" If so, what are the qualities of such a man and what are the standards that this mysterious "elite" man meets that other men do not? If you do not believe there is such an animal, why would Black men claim that they are "Elite"... what would the goal be to proclaim ones self to be "elite" to women, to other men, and to the world? Please join me tonight to discuss the mindset of Black men that believe themselves to be "elite" and what that attitude means to the remaining Black men and Black women as well here in the U.S. Share your thoughts by calling 347-327-9215 or logging onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.

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Living Large - Overweight Single Women and Romance - Nov 28,2010

2010-11-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Tonight we will take a look at the issues of weight and how it affects women of color. From their perceived sexual attractiveness and healthiness, to social and employment opportunities - being overweight or obese affects every part of a womans life as well as how they view themselves. If a woman should lose weight, what if anything changes about her self-perception? Do men see her as just a skinny fat girl? Please join the discussion by calling 347-327-9215 or logging onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat

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Why Can't Men Handle Female Rejection? - Nov 22,2010

2010-11-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

All over the internet, men rant and rave about the rejection they get from women both on and offline. Women are called names on both online and on the street, stalked, beaten and killed when they "have the nerve" to reject a man's romantic advances. Why is it that men think they have the right to get a woman's attention, body and love if they want it - no matter what SHE wants? Let's talk about it! Call 347-327-9215 or log onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat

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The Emotional Instability of Men - Nov 07,2010

2010-11-06 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

On tonights show well be discussing the emotional side of men with Steven James Dixon, the author of "Men Dont Heal, We HO... a Book About the Emotional Instability of Men." Steven James Dixon is a husband, relationship expert and columnist on Essence.Com ("The Relationship Report"). Stevens book challenges men to heal from broken relationships and take responsibility. He says "I have developed a principle that will save all marriages. That principle is that the success or failure of all marriages is based solely upon the leadership of men."Call 347-327-9215 to participate via telephone, or log on to chat.

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How to Spot a Loser - Oct 24,2010

2010-10-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The singles world is full of loser men and women. Some of them are masked and appear to be normal, sane, educated and professional people! But once you get involved with them on an intimate level, the fool comes bursting forth. Abusive, vindictive, mamas boys, petty, spoiled, lazy, blood sucking, game-playing, lying, no good users... yuck! Whether you are 16 or 96, Im sure you have at least one story to share of a date or relationship with one of these types. Tonight well discuss the questions you can ask and share tips on what to look for to let you know that the person you are dealing with is a stone cold LOSER. Join the discussion by calling 347-327-9215.

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How Church and The Bible Keep Black Women Down - Oct 17,2010

2010-10-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Tonight we offer a 1-2 punch on the impact religion and churches have on African Americans which keep the women single and men out of church. Together for the first time, two of the most outspoken critics of the Black church. Author Jeremiah Camara (author of "The New Doubting Thomas: The Bible, Black Folks and Blind Belief"), and columnist Deborrah Cooper (author of the controversial piece sweeping the Internet: "The Black Church: How Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely") join forces to examine the changes Black Americans need to make to break free of the limitations placed on their minds, achievements and relationships imposed by Christianity. Log on to chat or call 347-327-9215 to participate in the sure to be heated discussion.

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Get a Man, Keep a Man - Is Keeping a Man a Woman's Responsibility? - Oct 09,2010

2010-10-08 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Discussion of the phrases that are used by and against women who are made to feel bad about being single and without a man in their life. Is it necessary for a woman to be validated by her association with a male in a relationship? Women are likely to hear "you don't know how to keep a man!" or "now that you got him, you better know how to keep him!" What messages do men get to keep a woman? Then we will talk about the recent Sex in America survey where men thought they were hitting it at 85% but women said umm, no, you really ain't! Why the differences in opinion? Let's discuss it.

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Human Trafficking: Recognizing a Predator - Protecting Your Daughter - Oct 03,2010

2010-10-02 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Human trafficking for sexual exploitation or forced labor is the second largest criminal industry in the world. Approximately 27 million people worldwide are enslaved, most of them women and girls. Youths, especially runaways, are most often the victims. Are your children at risk? Join me and my two special guests Nancy Todd (a former victims of trafficking in her teens after running away from home), and Jeanine Swatton an advocate to stop sex-trafficking and cyberbullying prevention expert. Jeanine works with survivors of sex-trafficking and will share with you the signs and dangers as well as protecting your children from becoming victims. Hear their stories and learn how you can detect signs that your child may be in danger. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion on one of the worlds fastest growing industries - human trafficking.

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Select and Non-Select Men - Communication and Attitude - Sep 26,2010

2010-09-25 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

We continue our discussion of select and non-select men, those "nice" guys that women ignore and pass over for dating, relationships and marriage. We covered a list of 15 important traits women look for men to have and be which make them "select." This week we'll delve into how a man's funky attitudes about women, power and control in relationships, as well as his method of communication with females can work in his favor or against him. Call 347-327-9215 to share your story or participate in the on-air discussion of how :non-select" men can grow and change to have more success with females!

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Non-Select Nice Guys vs The Players Women Adore - Sep 19,2010

2010-09-18 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Women complain that there are no decent men to date, but what they really mean is that there is a shortage of "select" men - men with education, class, style, hot bodies, wit, money and sex appeal. There are a lot of "nice guys" that dont have the attributes women love, but they can learn how to improve their attractiveness to women and move from non-select to the group of select guys women adore. Join me tonight to discuss the traits women are looking for and how the "non-select" men can acquire them and have more success with females! Call in to 347-327-9215 to participate in the discussion.

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Black Men in Prison and the Women That Love Them - Sep 12,2010

2010-09-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The United States has become the world leader in incarceration. Much has been written on the men who make up the majority of the 2 million inmates, but what about the women they leave behind? Tonight well be joined by Megan Comfort a sociologist at the Center for AIDS Prevention Studies at the University of California, San Francisco. Her book "Doing Time Together" details the ways that prisons shape and infiltrate the lives of women with husbands, fiancés, and boyfriends on the inside. She spent several years getting to know women visiting inmates at San Quentin. This broadcast promises to be an enlightening analysis of women caught in the shadow of America's massive prison system as we investigate the long-term consequences on Black men, women and children of our punitive culture.

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Feminism and Black Love Relationships - Aug 23,2010

2010-08-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Why is it that African Americans, especially those shrouded in religious doctrine, are so against feminism? Is the sexism associated with religion so prevalent, so pervasive, that both Black men and women are afraid of women gaining freedom of choice and the right to do things the way they want to instead of the way MEN WANT THEM TO??? Feminism is a word uttered with the utmost disdain by Black men, and being called a feminist is almost equivalent to the "B" word. Why is it that Black Americans are so dead set against feminism? Call 347-327-9215 and let's talk about it.

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The Invisible Black Woman - Aug 21,2010

2010-08-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Black women have been bombarded with images which depict Black females as aggressive, masculine, disease ridden, angry and unmarriageable. This problem is compounded by Black men that apparently prefer to date and marry women of other races, holding them up as superior to the Black women they have abandoned. Black women read articles and blog posts, buy newspapers and magazines, and tune into television broadcasts which portray these negative images - over and over again. Why are Black women so quick to buy into negative stereotypes about themselves? And what is the real agenda behind White media's constant barrage of negative propaganda as it concerns the Black woman? Please join me and my special guests Kaptan Solo and Divine Brown (conscious v-loggers from Generation-X.Net) for a highly controversial discussion on race, relationships and gender.

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Single Moms Dating in a World Full of Pedophiles - Aug 15,2010

2010-08-14 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The alarming number of young children abused, injured and even murdered by their mother's boyfriends or new husbands is frightening. Why are women so quick to bring men they barely know themselves around their babies? Even more of a question is why so many women leave their children unsupervised in the care of these relative strangers! Does love make women blind to danger, or are they knowingly sacrificing their children's safety in exchange for a man? The call-in number is 347-327-9215. Please join us along with our special guest psychotherapist to discuss the dangers a naive single mother may unknowingly face when dating in a world full of pedophiles.

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Compatibility in Romantic Relationships - Aug 02,2010

2010-08-01 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Have you been looking for love in all the wrong places? Wasting time with people with whom there is no easy togetherness? Do you find yourself in "relationships" that are more exciting to imagine than they are to really be in? After spending time with your partner do you frequently end up feeling angry or frustrated? There are basic needs and personality traits that we all have which must be in sync with our partners. We'll discuss love, romance and romantic compatibility between couples on tonight's show. Call in to share your experience with dating relationships gone wrong at 347-327-9215!

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On Point Black Men and Female Submission - Jul 26,2010

2010-07-25 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

So you meet a Black man that has good credit, an education, owns a home, and has a viable source of income. He considers himself to be "on point" and therefore, superior to other men. Part of his belief system is that you, as a mere woman, are not qualified to be the leader in a relationship. He tells you that it is his right and privilege to lead you because he is "on point". Do Black women resist getting with men they feel are on their level educationally and professionally, or do they avoid these men because of their mandate that women submit? Is a relationship with a man that believes he is superior to you ever going to work? What do you say about the on point man, leadership and female submission? Call in to 347-327-9215 and share your thoughts, or join the lively chat room discussion.

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Deborrah Cooper Discusses The Black Church - Jul 11,2010

2010-07-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Deborrah Cooper is the author of the controversial article sweeping radio airwaves and the web: "The Black Church - How The Black Church Keeps African American Women Single and Lonely." This article single-handedly served as the impetus for much needed discussion on the Institutional Black Church and its role in the lives of millions of Black women. Following on the heels of interviews with Tom Joyner Morning Show, Michael Eric Dyson, and CNN, Cooper asks again: Do Black churches keep Black women single? Does the Black church meet the needs of Black women or is it a limiter and drain on female energy and resources? What are Black churches doing right here, right now for the Black men, women and children in the communities in which they reside? Is the Black church in need of change? Call 347-327-9215 to participate in what is sure to be a very heated discussion.

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Singles Dating Tips: When to Call, Text or Email - Jul 04,2010

2010-07-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Are you confused about the best time to call, how long you should wait to call the first time after meeting? Or perhaps you wonder how long to stay on the phone, if you should send a text or not, send an email or not, and when and how often to do any of the above? Singles everywhere want to know the rules and guidelines for modern communication when dating so they dont mess things up! Tonight well discuss the "dos" and "donts" of using technology to create increased romance and closeness. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the show live, or log onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat to chat and follow along on your computer.

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Does Love Make Women Stupid? - Jun 27,2010

2010-06-26 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Some women will go to any lengths to "protect" their man. Fighting, lying, criminal acts are included in some of the behaviors women will go through to protect the man they believe they love. Other women sacrifice their morals, values, money, careers, educational opportunities, families and sometimes even their lives for a man. Does love make women stupid? Call in and share your opinion on the subject at 347-327-9215, or log on to participate in the lively chatroom discussion at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat.

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Single Black Women and Black Churches - Jun 17,2010

2010-06-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

How much are Black women, the most religious people on the planet, being held back by their "spiritual leaders" from achieving their dreams? With so many disappointing and downright scandalous church leaders in our midst along with a dearth of single black men in church for the single black females to marry as the Pastor says, why do Sistahs still insist on going to THAT church every Sunday?

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Jealousy - Healthy Reaction or a Red Warning Flag? - Jun 13,2010

2010-06-12 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

When is the jealous reaction of your partner a healthy and normal response, and when might it be a warning flag of a possessive control freak? When do you talk to your partner and when should you run away, in fear of your life? Call in to share your stories of jealousy... either your own feelings of jealousy in a relationship, experiences with jealous partners, or those of friends or family affected by jealous lovers. Log onto http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat or call in to the live broadcast at 347-327-9215.

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Single by Choice - Why Some Women Choose to Never Marry - Jun 06,2010

2010-06-05 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

U.S. Census Reports show that ever increasing numbers of heterosexual women are choosing to never marry. The decision to remain single or indefinitely postpone marriage may be perceived as strangely different from many within the individuals family or social group. How would a woman hold up under this scrutiny and societal pressure? The purpose of tonights discussion is to examine the problems and pressures women experience when choosing to not marry. Well look at both the pros and cons, benefits and consequences of this marital choice with particular emphasis on how it effects Black women.

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What Emotion Drives Your Relationship - Love or Fear? - May 31,2010

2010-05-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Is it fear or is it love that motivates you to behave in the ways you do? Is it fear or love that keeps you single or that causes you to talk to and treat your partner the way you do? Why is it that you stay in a relationship that isn't what you claim to want? Why do you settle? Do you not stand up for yourself and worry constantly about your partner cheating or leaving if you do? Let's talk about the relationship choices we make and whether we are motivated by FEAR or LOVE. Call 347-327-9215.

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Are Women Socialized to be Codependent? - May 23,2010

2010-05-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Co-dependency is a learned behavior that is often passed down from one generation to another in families. A loose definition of codependency is that it is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. Get that - MUTUALLY SATISFYING. Why is it that so many women enter into and stay involved in one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or emotionally and physically abusive relationships? Let's talk about it! The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

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How Your Dreams Can Guide You to Love - May 16,2010

2010-05-15 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Understanding your dreams can make you smarter, safer and ultimately happier; your dreams are the most no-nonsense guide to love, relationships and the perfect partner for you that you are ever going to find. Once you understand the easy, accurate way to know what your dreams mean, you will never be guessing about other people or your own heart again! Dr. Gillian Holloway, the author of The Complete Dream Book guests. Call 347-327-9215 to participate in the live broadcast.

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What Qualifies You to Call Yourself a Good Black Man? - May 09,2010

2010-05-08 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

When a guy proclaims himself to be "a good man" whose standards of performance is he talking about? Do Black men that believe themselves to be "good" have a superiority complex? What in female's mind qualifies a male as a "good" man anyway? We gotta ask the question: what makes a Black man a "good" man in your eyes? Let's talk about it! Call in with your questions or comments on What Qualifies You to Call Yourself a Good Black Man? to 347-327-9215.

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Black Women and Marriage - Part 2 - Apr 26,2010

2010-04-25 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Why does marriage to a Black man elude single, educated, professional Black women? Much media attention has been given to Black men's unending stream of negativity and sharing their opinions about what Black women need to be, do or say to qualify for marriage to them and I'm sick of hearing it. Qualify? WTF? How about YOU qualify to have a wife fool! Start by shutting that pie hole and listening for a change! Many women have bought into the nonsense about men and marriage, and believe they are nothing without a man. These women set themselves up to become involved in stupid relationships with stupid men. Black women aren't married... so what!? Tonight we'll discuss the issue of marriage for Black women, the pros and cons, and whether it is realistic and appropriate to demand that Black women "lower their expectations" or "get with a man for his potential" in order to have the perceived benefits of marriage and a husband. Call in! The show live line is 347-327-9215

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Black Women - Do You Really Need to be Married? - Apr 25,2010

2010-04-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The past few weeks there has been heavy media attention placed on the woes of educated, professional Black women and what these Sista's need to do to "get a man." Nightline featured a panel discussion moderated by Steve Harvey, with Hill Harper, Sherry Shepherd and a host of other people have all shared their thoughts and opinions on what Black women need to do differently to entice a man to marry. Let's talk about the issue of marriage, the pros and cons for Black women, and whether it is realistic and appropriate to demand that Black women "lower their expectations" or "get with a man for his potential" in order to have a husband. Call 347-327-9215!

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Targeting and Capturing the Perfect Man - Apr 22,2010

2010-04-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Hunting Season officially opened on April 1st, and runs through September 30th. These six months are the 'only acceptable' time for women to head out into the rural, urban, and suburban wild to bag themselves a prize buck. Single women need to understand that in order to bring down a good man, you'll need a finessed technique, appropriate 'hunting gear,' to know where your buck likes to graze, and plenty of practice. In the book HUNTING SEASON, author Elle shares the foolproof strategies she's developed after years of successful bagging, tagging, and capturing prize bucks of all kinds.

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Black Women Jump Through Hoops For Black Men - Apr 18,2010

2010-04-17 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

The hoop jumping starts in the teens. Young women stab their best friends in the back to get the attentions of a boy and it goes downhill from there. Other young women undergo painful surgery to change their bodies, change their hair and live a lifestyles they heard men like women to live, all with the goal of winning the favor of men. Adult females will spend a fortune on hair and clothing, shame themselves, endure physically or emotionally painful sex acts, and continue to suffer emotional and physical abuse all while focusing on getting or keeping some man. Black women sometimes wait years for a man to get himself together, to love her, to give her the commitment and relationship she desires. Why do Black men try to use emotional withholding and judgments as a tool to control the women in their lives? The concept of dating, relationships, marriage and how women have been deluded into thinking men are a prize to be won discussed tonight.

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Why Men With No Game Fail With Women - Apr 11,2010

2010-04-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

The so-called "good men" complain that women choose style over substance and prefer players. At least the playa steps up! Even if he just wants to play he presents himself with energy and charisma while the 'men of substance' just stand around too scared to approach or speak up, then they get angry and want to condemn women for being with "the wrong man." Did you ever consider that maybe you "good men" need to tighten up your game? Maybe you would have gotten picked too if you had approached instead of sitting back on your butt waiting for a woman to approach YOU. Deborrah and a panel of female guests lay it down for men confused about what to say when approaching a woman and how to say it to get results.

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Dating in 2010... Should Women Ask Men Out ? - Apr 04,2010

2010-04-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

When is it right for a woman to ask a man out on a date? Are there circumstances where it is a good thing to do, and others where she should slow her roll? What are the pros and cons of a woman initiating a relationship with an eligible male? Should modern women sit back and wait for the man to approach, or should she take the bull by the horns and ask out a man she is interested in? What is your take on single women being the initiator asking men out on dates?

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Sexually Confident Women Scare Men - Apr 01,2010

2010-03-31 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Are men afraid of the sexually confident woman that doesn't care about their labels? Do men feel a loss of control over a woman that laughs at their condemnation and attempts to limit her sexual freedom? What's your take on why so many men are prone to call the sexually free woman some really nasty names? Charles J. Orlando, the author of "The Problem With Women... is Men! The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness" joins us. Let's talk about men, women, male socialization regarding female sexuality and sexual double stereotypes which makes men champs and women skanks for the same behaviors. Call into the show by dialing 347-327-9215.

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Gender Wars - Emotional Women vs Logical Men? - Mar 28,2010

2010-03-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Is it true that women are more emotional than men, or is it that men are just as if not more emotional than women - guys just don't feel comfortable with their emotions and try to deny having them! Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball guests and provides insight into the psychology of both men and women. Let's talk about which gender is truly the most logical and which has the greatest number of emotional responses in daily life. Call into 347-327-9215!

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If He Really Loved Me Why Did He Cheat? - Mar 25,2010

2010-03-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The recent spate of celebrity relationships destroyed by adultery has turned the nation's eye on infidelity. Women that are stunningly attractive, sexy, madly in love with their husbands, successful and intelligent are STILL the victims of cheating men. How can a woman know in advance if her man is the "cheating type" before she gets too deeply involved? Is leaving a cheater always the best thing to do? Is there any way to "cheat proof" your relationship? Dr. Catherine Cardinal, author of "Men to Run From So You Can Find the Right One to Run To!" returns to the show to share her insight into the reasons for cheating, how it destroys relationships, and what we can do to prevent cheating in our own lives.

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Can Abused Children Have Healthy Relationships? - Mar 21,2010

2010-03-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Dr. Nancy B. Irwin is a psychologist and clinical therapeutic hypnotist in private practice in Los Angeles. She co-leads group therapy sessions for sex offenders, and is also a busy speaker for Children of the Night (a shelter for sexually abused children in Southern California), and RAINN (the Rape and Incest National Network). Tonight she discusses with us the many challenges faced by childhood victims of sexual abuse in forming healthy bonds and relationships in adulthood and how both victims and perpetrators can turn around their lives. Please join us for an important discussion on a sensitive subject which affects millions of Americans.

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Relationship Problems Caused by Sexual Imagery - Mar 20,2010

2010-03-19 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Whether in books, films or on the Internet, repeated exposure to sexual imagery has devastated millions of relationships and the self-esteem of both the addicts and their partners. What is the reason some people become addicted to p-o-r-n to the point they are unable to function with a partner unless they get their fix? Is there a way out? Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST is a sex and relationship therapist and national expert on sexual addiction. Please join us for an important discussion on a growing problem. Call in with your questions or comments - 347-327-9215.

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Isadora Alman: Intimacy, Sexuality and Relationships - Mar 18,2010

2010-03-17 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Syndicated sex and relationship columnist Isadora Alman, MFT (Ask Isadora), sits in with us tonight to discuss the importance of good communication both in and out of bed, and what we can do to improve communication with our partners and thus improve our sex lives. Isadora is a board certified sexologist, a California licensed therapist, and the author of "Doing It - Real People Having Really Good Sex" a collection of sexy suggestions and helpful hints on relationships and sex from column readers and Forum members. Her "ASK ISADORA" advice column has appeared in newspapers around the world for more than 25 years. She is in private practice and consults locally here in the San Francisco Bay Area. Call with your questions about developing intimacy and improving your relationship communication at 347-327-9215.

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Miss Lady Can I Talk To You For a Minute? - Mar 08,2010

2010-03-07 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Ladies, how do you feel about a guy trying to "holla" while you are walking down the street or in other public places? You're minding your own business then suddenly you've been intercepted and bombarded with conversation and questions. Do you see this type of thing as flattering attention or a nuisance from some sucka that looked at your ass and decided he wants to get some of it? Guys, have you ever done that type of thing? If so, what was your approach? What type of man from the male perspective tries to pick up women on the street anyway? What did you think about the women that responded either positively or negatively? Let's discuss the pros and cons of picking women up on the street, and the caveats/warnings for women of allowing themselves to be picked up.

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Dating and Dollars - What Makes Cents? - Mar 04,2010

2010-03-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Tonight's discussion revolves around the importance of money in dating and mate selection. We'll look into female expectations with regards to a male's financial stability and his suitability as a boyfriend or husband. Is love better if you have money in your pocket or does not matter? Would you date someone that was "between jobs", or that made much less money than you? Do you adhere to the belief that you can fall in love with someone rich just as easily as you can someone that is broke! Do you believe in the saying "ain't no romance without finance?" Let's talk about it! The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

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Dead End Relationships - Mar 01,2010

2010-02-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Discussion of relationships between mismatched couples that have no real future. Why do so many singles involve themselves in relationships that are basically a waste of time, providing nothing but emptiness, distance, stress, loneliness and sometimes even abuse? For more information on this topic, read 10 Early Warning Signs of a Dead-End Relationship by advice columnist Deborrah Cooper.

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Sex Addiction - Reality or Excuse for Bad Behavior? - Feb 25,2010

2010-02-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Tiger Woods is being treated for it, as well as dozens of other celebrity married men caught with their pants down. Is "sex addiction" real or an excuse cheaters use to avoid taking responsibility for their greed and lack of commitment? Guest experts include Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D. who says "Sex addiction is used as an excuse to let men who live in the lifestyles of the rich and famous cheat on their wives. Why do these women really believe their husbands? Will Tiger Woods go back to cheating on his wife in a couple of months/years?" Tanja Diamond, is a Tantra teacher and Sexual Intimacy expert, who believes ignorance in the bedroom destroys more than relationships. Boring sex leads to depression, divorce, lawsuits, broken homes, careers lost, and poor self image. She states "Cinderella is contributing to infidelity and divorce." Please join us for this important discussion on commitment, cheating and compulsive behaviors by cheating men.

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Your Man is Cheating on You! - Feb 21,2010

2010-02-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Get a clue, your man is cheating on you! Tonight we will focus on the things men do to set up a situation which makes it easy for them to cheat. We'll also uncover how cheaters get away with it, signs a man is either thinking about cheating or actually doing it, signs women usually overlook, signs which reveal the identity of the other woman, and how a wife or girlfriend should handle cheating behaviors. Guest expert is Ruth Houston, author of "Is He Cheating on You? 829 Tell-Tale Signs" which is the result of nine years of research on infidelity.

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Blind Dating Pros and Cons - Feb 18,2010

2010-02-17 :: Ms HeartBeat

Joining us tonight to discuss the ups and downs and particulars of the scary "blind date" is Megan Carson. Megan Carson, author of A Year of Blind Dates: A Single Girl’s Search for "The One" (Regal Books), knows all too well the fears and anxiety of blind dating, after she spent an entire year going on one blind date after another. With a light-hearted narrative and anecdotes, Carson shares her personal experiences to help other women recognize their own relationship standards. Learn to identify the personality of blind dates, such as "Bachelor Blake," "Miguel the Matador," "Penthouse Pete" and "Humanistic Henry." Call in at 347-327-9215.

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Are You Happy Being Single or Not? - Feb 14,2010

2010-02-13 :: Ms HeartBeat

Not everyone is meant to be in a partnership, and some people relish their freedom and single-ness. If you're happy being single, clap your hands! But if you are looking for a partner and unsure about what you are doing wrong, we have suggestions for you as well. Joining me tonight is Daniela Koenig, M.A., a certified Relationship Coach and workshop facilitator. Daniela supports singles in recognizing and overcoming old relationship patterns that might be standing in the way of them attracting their life partner.

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Is He Husband Material? - Feb 11,2010

2010-02-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

He says he will be supportive, loving and a good man. But how will a man SHOW his potential wife those traits with behavior? What are a woman's expectations about a man's behavior towards her, lifestyle, goals, and accomplishments in life prove he has husband potential? What is it that he needs to do ladies to prove to you that he is indeed the man that he says he is, and will be the husband for you that he imagines in his mind?

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Things Men Do That Drive Women Away - Feb 07,2010

2010-02-06 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

In January we addressed the things women do that drive men away, now it's the ladies' turn! What are the top things men do that run women away from relationships, love, and commitment saying "hell nawww, I'm outta here!" Whether you are female dating men that have run you off, or a man that did some of these dastardly deeds women complain of, we want to hear from you. If you have been put into the friend zone or your romance never got off the ground, you may learn why tonight. We'll be discussing traits and behaviors highest on women's lists that make them run in the opposite direction from the men in their lives. Listen over your computer by logging onto Date Smarter, Not Harder Talk Show, or participate in the live discussion by calling 347-327-9215.

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Establishing and Maintaining Boundaries - Feb 04,2010

2010-02-03 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women often profess to being terrified of being alone. Some women, enter into relationships that are painful, cold or abusive even after a little voice in their head says "this guy is bad news!" Why do women and even some men have such a hard time establishing and maintaining boundaries with regards to who they allow into their lives and beds? Karol Ward, LCSW guests tonight and discusses her book "Find Your Inner Voice." This book will teach you how to make decisions about love, relationships, health and spirituality by using your body as a natural compass. When you learn to trust your instincts and recognize your intuitive voice, you can use them both to make more positive life choices. Karol's articles and expertise have been featured in Cosmopolitan, Experience Life Magazine, CosmoGirl, IDEA Fitness Journal, and Best Body Magazine. Join us! The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

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The Male Need to Control Women - Jan 31,2010

2010-01-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Men are socialized to be in command, to rule and win, but what is it about men that makes them feel the need to control women? Controlling behaviors come in many forms - from outright domination, violence, and oppression to more subtle forms like the way he speaks to women or his attempts to manipulate through name-calling or judgments that prey on women's insecurities. What might such male socialization do to the psyches, hearts and dreams of women? Most women are unaware of the socialization they've been raised under and never question their beliefs about what women should do, be, or say as it regards interactions with males. Our guests tonight bring to light many attitudes and behaviors that rob Black women of their joy and power. Tolu is the author of the eye opening review of world culture and its damaging effects on female children and adults entitled "Why and How Women Are Exploited By Men Worldwide. Hasani Pettiford is an award-winning speaker and author of Why We Hate Black Women, which investigates the stigma of what it means to be black and female in America. This show is guaranteed to provide one of the hottest discussions on Black male/female relationships on BlogTalkRadio. You don't want to miss it! Call in at 347-327-9215.

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Developing Trust and Intimacy in a New Relationship - Jan 28,2010

2010-01-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

We've entered new year, and along with that will come new romantic relationships. However for many couples, the painful issues from the past (betrayal, cheating, rejection and abandonment) will impact their ability to trust and open up their heart to love. What can we do to provide new partners with the open communication, trust and clean slate they deserve? Marty Babits, an experienced psychotherapist, has worked with hundreds of families and couples over the past 25 years will be our guest. Mr. Babits supervises family and couples therapists at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in NYC and is a Board Certified Diplomate in advanced clinical social work. His book The Power of the Middle Ground is an easy to read self–help book that gives clear guidelines and suggestions for improving communication and developing love and intimacy. It features communication tips that are useful for both singles and couples. Please join us to discuss the issues that undermine many potentially successful relationships. The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

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Romance Bromance or Homance? - Jan 24,2010

2010-01-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

This show is for women only! Ladies, when a man doesn't want you long-term and that attitude is quite obvious, why don't you accept it and immediately move on to find real Romance? What are the signs that a man is more into his male buddies and Bromance than he is women? Why don't women demand more from men, instead accepting whatever they can get from him while waiting around, hoping he will change and finally give her what she wants? Ladies, when you are trading your body and heart for a few crumbs of male attention, I call that Homance! Let's talk about it. Call in at 347-327-9215.

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Black Men, College, Dating and Relationships - Jan 23,2010

2010-01-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

We continue our discussion from Wednesday night (January 20, 2010) and delve deeper into the issue of higher education, earning power, female professional and career success, and the impact a college education may have on who an educated Black woman views as a viable potential mate. The discussion on Wednesday night's show demonstrated that some Black men assume that a degreed person doesn't have much to offer in the way of positive character traits-just a degree. Is this a sly way of putting down those feel obtaining a college education is important? Can't a woman have character, beauty AND education? Are these judgments just another way to put down Black women with standards who are consistently condemned for being "too picky" and to "have ridiculously high standards" by Black men? Please join us for this specially scheduled PART TWO broadcast by logging in at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat, or by calling 347-327-9215.

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Why Black Men Criticize Black Women with Dating Standards - Jan 21,2010

2010-01-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

For several months we've discussed the desire that single, educated, accomplished women of all races have with regards to a mate with a similar level of education, financial acumen, and emotional availability. These standards have been consistently been ridiculed by Black men all over BlogTalkRadio! Enough already! Tonight I'll be asking some hard questions: Why do so many Black men feel that a woman seeking an established mate, or a man with a college degree, or a mate with no stray children, or a man that has never been married or locked up in prison, and that has himself together is wrong? Why are Black women with standards consistently condemned for being "too picky" by Black men? It would seem that many Black men believe Black women have no right to demand to have a man on her level educationally, emotionally, socially or economically, nor the right to reject any man as a date or potential long-term partner for not meeting her standards. We'll be discussing this and other conflicts concerning standards of behavior, achievement and expectations Black women have of the men they want to love and marry tonight. Please join us by logging in at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat, or by calling 347-327-9215.

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Black Men and Their Relationships with Black Women - Jan 17,2010

2010-01-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

What is behind the conflict between Black men and Black women? Most of it would seem to be a major difference in foundational principles and beliefs about what makes a man, what makes a woman, and what makes a relationship "work." Many Black men believe a woman should submit... but what is she submitting to? How do Black men view roles in relationships? Why do so many Black men choose to shoot down the messenger because they don't like the message - resorting to name calling, blaming and denigrating females? What impact do the masks we wear have on our ability to really appreciate each other's strengths, and see each other for who and what we are? And finally, when a Black man insists a woman accede her power so he can feel like a man, what is he really seeking? The impact of Christianity on the Black man, and discussion of submission, relationships, dating and love. Guests tonight are Michael D. Teague whose journey to manhood has been a combination of successes, failures, joys and sorrows. He utilizes his experiences to assist men in their own journey; his book "Rise and Walk! Seven Steps to Purposeful Living" is an inspirational, self-help book for men. Also joining me tonight is my oldest brother Clinton, a minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

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Men and Their Magnum Lies - Jan 11,2010

2010-01-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Why do so many men insist they need MAGNUM size when in reality they need the "muy pequeño" sized one. Size DOES matter chump, and it matters even more that you know what to do with what you got. We will also talk about the erroneous belief that women can get intimacy any time from any man, and other untruths and fabulous fables told during dating.

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Are Women the New Men? - Jan 10,2010

2010-01-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Since the 1960s Women's Liberation movement, women have become increasingly educated, powerful, and independent of men. Tonight we look at how men feel about a "strong" woman; the possible long-term impact of a woman being raised to be independent of men, and why so many men seem confused about the roles of men and women in 2010. Is there a societal backlash against women due to their independence and the demands now being placed on men to change? Have men and the concept of commitment and marriage kept up with the changes in women? What role does the modern man play in women's lives and in relationships? Our guest tonight is Michelle McKinney Hammond, author of "Ending The Search for Mr. Right" and "The Sassy Girl's Checklist for Living, Loving & Overcoming." Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential. us! The call-in number is 347-327-9215.

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Becoming His Wife - Jan 07,2010

2010-01-06 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What is it that men are looking for in a wife in 2010? Does what a man seeks in a wife change with age and maturity and different for men in their 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond? Seems lots of men seem to hold onto the fantasy image of a wife that wears hot lingerie, always smells fresh, never says NO!, cooks, cleans and submissively anticipates and caters to his every need. Are these expectations of "a wife" realistic? Christine Pembleton, the author of Lord, I'm Ready to Be a Wife: The Complete Guide to Moving from Single to Married God's Way chats with Ms. HeartBeat about this issue. If you want to get married ladies, you must ask yourself is it for the right reasons? Christine's book addresses the reasons why women should get married, and how to attain a marriage mindset to prepare yourself to be a wife. The show call-in number is 347-327-9215... join us! You might also want to check out a recent broadcast which asks the question Why Bother Getting Married.

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Things Women do That Drive Men Away - Jan 03,2010

2010-01-02 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What would you say are the top things single women do that drive men away from dates, relationships, love and from commitment? Whether you are male dating women that have driven you away, or a female that did some of these dastardly deeds, we want to hear from you. We'll be discussing traits and behaviors highest on men's lists that make them run in the opposite direction as they say "awww hell nawww, I'm outta here!" Dr. Catherine Cardinal, author of MEN TO RUN FROM So You Can Find the Right One to Run To, guests. Visit her site at Men To Run From

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Checklist to Create Better Relationships in 2010 - Dec 31,2009

2009-12-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Ms. HeartBeat (Deborrah Cooper) welcomes your participation in the last show of the year 2009. As we prepare to move into 2010, many of you will be leaving old loves and relationships behind. What are your plans for next year? If you ended up disgusted with the way you were treated, fed up with men (or women), and frustrated about how your last relationship ultimately turned out, this is a great show for you! We'll focus on how you can seek something different and hopefully much better for 2010. In the meantime, ask yourself what behaviors do you now recognize as self-defeating? How are you going to change? What traits and behaviors are you planning to seek in a mate in your future relationships? What is on your checklist of things to do differently as it concerns your love life in 2010? To participate in the lively discussion, call 347-327-9215.

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What Makes You a Girlfriend? - Dec 27,2009

2009-12-26 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Back in the 1950s, a man staked a claim on a woman and they were then "going steady." A woman knew what was going on, and her relationship was recognized as official. But people have told me flatly to get over it... that no one ASKS a woman to be his girlfriend anymore... that such things took place "in the olden days." Isn't that confusing though? I mean...a woman thinks that if you hang out more than 3 times, she's dating you and is your girlfriend. A guy may not be on that page and will often end up saying to a brokenhearted woman: "umm, no you ain't -- we are not a couple!" At what point is exclusivity discussed and expected? When is it appropriate to "stake a claim" on someone and make your relationship an official boyfriend/girlfriend situation? Call into 347-327-9215.

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Why Women Settle for Less in Relationships - Dec 24,2009

2009-12-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

It seems the majority of females are totally willing to settle for a man that is less - less ambitious, less religious, less intelligent, less physically attractive, less giving. Why do we so often see women who have it all settling for any piece of a man due to the belief that ANY man is better than no man at all? Why do women buy into this way of thinking? When does compromise become settling? Join me as we discuss some of the many reasons women settle for less in relationships and stay with men that are not treating them well.

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70% of Black Women are Single - Dec 22,2009

2009-12-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

There is a contingent of Black men online and in print media that love to quote the statistic: "70% of Black women are single!" This statement is shouted and repeated with the utmost excitement and conviction. It is usually followed by suggestions (aka demands) that Black women change what they are doing and how they are doing it, how they dress, speak, and what they need to be like in order to remove themselves from this pool of faceless lonely and desperate women, hungering for a husband. To read Deborrah Cooper's article on this subject, click here: 70% of Black Women Are Single? Don't Believe The Hype!

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The Warning Signs That You're Dating a Loser - Dec 20,2009

2009-12-19 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Weve all kissed frogs and stood around waiting for him or her to turn into Royalty. Why dont more singles recognize when the person they are dating is a real loser and not worth the time or energy theyve put into building a relationship? Tonight well discuss the warning signs you now know (from life experience and getting your head bumped) indicate that someone isnt really the right guy or gal for you. Sandra L. Brown, M.A. (CEO of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education) is a psychopathologist and award-winning author. Her books include How to Spot a Dangerous Man book and workbook, and Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths. Dr. LeslieBeth Wish Ed. D. MSS (LoveVictory.Com) also joins me to discuss the behaviors and attitudes singles should be watching for to know they are dating a loser vs. a winner! Participate in the discussion by calling 347-327-9215.

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Why Women Love Bad Boys - Dec 17,2009

2009-12-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Why do some women choose bad boys over and over and never learn to move past them? What is it about "good guys" that makes women yawn? Is it true that the "good guys" really have the same motivations as the "bad boys," they're just sneaky, manipulative and underhanded about how they go about getting it? Our guests tonight are actress and motivational speaker A.J. Johnson and Dr. Carole Lieberman M.D., M.P.H. When AJ is not sharing the screen with Julia Roberts, Ving Rhames or Sylvester Stallone, she is one of the most world renowned lifestyle coaches and wellness advocates around. A.J. was a Psychology/Chemistry major at Spellman College in Atlanta and graduated Magna cum Laude in Psychology. Dr. Carole Lieberman is the author of "Bad Boys: Why we love them, How to live with them and When to leave them." Dr. Lieberman makes frequent appearances on Fox News, CNN, BBC, "The Today Show", "Good Morning America", "Entertainment Tonight" and many more top shows. Please join in this interesting discussion with two powerful women by calling 347-327-9215. Read Deborrah's article: "Why Women Are Attracted to Bad Boys, Thugs and Players".

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Female Domination Male Submission - Dec 13,2009

2009-12-12 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

An interesting flip on the thought that men should always be in control and running things! In this lifestyle choice, the female is the dominating partner that rules the male with a no-nonsense expectation of adherence to her demands. Our guests include Melissa Febos, author of a soon to be published book entitled "Whip Smart!" Elihu, a male submissive, and I.G. Frederick, author of "Dommemoir." We'll discuss the mental and emotional needs men and women have which are met by this lifestyle choice. Join me and my panel of guests as we take a look at a subculture which embraces total female rule and domination over males. Call into the show at 347-327-9215.

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Why Do I Love a Man That Hurts Me? - Dec 10,2009

2009-12-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Verbal abuse is seen in casual (new) dating situations amongst both adults AND TEENS with shocking frequency. From name calling and put downs to physical assaults, women stay in relationships with men that they apparently love more than they love themselves. Tonight we'll discuss the frequency which women return to abusers, the high tolerance women have for verbal abuse, types of injuries suffered, what women feel about their abuse/abusers, and provide solutions for healing. Our guests include Patricia Evans, author of the best-seller The Verbally Abusive Relationship and the recently released The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change?, and Robin Sax, a former Los Angeles County Prosecutor who specialized in felony cases including sex crimes, domestic violence, and stalking. Together they'll address the insidious nature of verbal, emotional and psychological abuse and answer the question: is verbal abuse a kind of violence? Read Recognizing Verbal Abuse. Call into the show at 347-327-9215

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Ms HeartBeat Interviewed 12/7 on the Run Tell Dat Show - Dec 07,2009

2009-12-07

On Monday, December 7, 2009 Ms. HeartBeat will be interviewed on the Run Tell Dat show, as we talk about love and modern dating issues. Please join us!





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Murder Suicides - Dating Gone Wrong - Dec 06,2009

2009-12-05 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What is the mentality of an individual that chooses to murder an estranged partner, then commit suicide? This type of violence, primarily directed towards females, has also included coworkers and family members of the intended target, as well as the couple's own children. Though many are married and going through a divorce, murder/suicides are common amongst singles as well. Dr. Katherine van Wormer, author of "Death by Domestic Violence: Preventing the Murders and Murder-Suicides" joins us to discuss this disturbing aspect of dating gone very, very wrong. The call in number is 347-327-9215.

Katherine van Wormer | murder suicides | jealousy in relationships | teen dating violence | domestic violence

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What Do They Mean When They Say... - Dec 03,2009

2009-12-02 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Hidden messages and masked communication uncovered. Communicating openly and honestly is high risk. Few people are willing to put themselves and their feelings on the line, so they hide and hint and pretend to think and feel things that they really don't. If you are frequently confused by what the opposite sex says and want some clarity, this is the show for you! Call in with your confusing statements and get help from the host and other callers. Dial 347-327-9215

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Your Relationship Resume - Nov 29,2009

2009-11-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

How about we create a resume to give to new dating partners that lists our best skills, our experience at the "job", our training, education and background? How many times have you been "written up" or fired? Why would anyone want to "hire" you for their mate? What are your "salary" requirements? If you had a relationship resume, what would be on it? The call-in number is 347-327-9215. Join me to discuss the qualifications you THINK you have for the job as boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. Special thanks to Susan Ireland for suggested dating/relationship "interview" questions ideas!

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Friendships With Exes - Nov 26,2009

2009-11-25 :: Ms HeartBeat

Is it a good idea to remain friends with ex-partners? What is the motivation behind hanging on to a "friendship" with someone you can't stand or who can't stand you? Are you the type that wants to keep tabs on your exes, or do you prefer to sever all ties and move on? What would you base your decision on when trying to decide if you should be friends with an ex or not?

friends with benefits | breaking up and staying friends | friends with my ex | how do I get my ex back | how do I move on

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Why Black Women Should Consider Dating Interracially - Nov 22,2009

2009-11-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

An article which appeared in Jet Magazine proclaimed that 57% of single White men are open to interracial dating, compared to 51% of single Black women. Almost half the Black female population over the age of 18 in the U.S. is single. We'll explore the nuances of love between races, what Black women need that they aren't getting from Black men, and the fears and stereotypes which may be preventing Black women from opening their arms and hearts to White men. Does love really have a color? Cheryl Y. Judice, Ph.D., is a sociologist and professor of African American Studies at Northwestern University and the author of the only scholarly treatise on black females with White men entitled Interracial Relationships - Black Women and White Men. Karyn Folan is the author of a soon to be released book on the same subject entitled "Don't Bring Home A White Boy and other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out." Karyn feels that "Black women aren't doing anything 'wrong' as far as dating goes... but the math is against us if we're only looking at black men. We outnumber them in some major cities at a ratio which some experts say could be as high as 10:1. That means we have two choices: look beyond race for romantic partners or remain single." Cicely J. is the author of the soon to be released book Black Men vs. White Men – The Black Woman's Choice. Cicely feels that more and more Black women are falling for their Mr. Right in the form of blonde hair and blue eyes because Darnell, DaQuan, and Tyrone are not equipped to meet her halfway. Join me and my guests as we discuss the pros, cons and controversy associated with interracial relationships between White men and Black women!

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Workplace Romance: True Love vs. Sexual Harassment - Nov 19,2009

2009-11-18 :: Ms HeartBeat

We spend a great portion of our day on our jobs, and many singles have found true love at their place of employment. Though many corporations even have written policies against office romances, most don't care. But what do you do if the love is one-sided? When does an honest expression of interest turn into sexual harassment or stalking? Some people don't take rejection well, and a breakup that has to be handled at the workplace is likely to cause problems for one or both parties. Is it smart to seek love at work or is this something we should avoid at all cost? Joining me to discuss workplace romance and civility in the face of rejection is Clinical Social Worker and Asst. Prof. Daniel L. Buccino, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine in Maryland.

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Why Women Struggle With NEXTING a Relationship - Nov 15,2009

2009-11-14 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Why do women have such a hard time moving on from a man and a relationship that they KNOW is no good for them? Women will tend to hang on and on, trying in vain to stir the heart of a man that is not interested in them "like that." Women will also waste a lot of time and energy trying to change a loser into the dynamic man they imagine he can be. Women give their beloved men chance after chance, enduring lying and mistreatment time after time. Why do women continue to love and stay with men in spite of the fact that he isn't the one and ain't trying to be? Why wouldn't these women prefer being single to being miserable in a relationship? Is it really true that having ANYONE is better than having no one at all?

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Why Bother Getting Married? - Nov 12,2009

2009-11-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Why do single men think that marrying them should be the goal of every woman in the world? Do single women still feel the need to behave in ways that meet the standards and expectations of men? With women filing 65% of the divorces in the U.S., does it make sense to believe that marriage is still a necessity for women, or has it become a rather distasteful option? Husband and wife team Laura and Jay Laffoon are the authors of "The Spark-Igniting Passion, Mystery and Romance in your Marriage and the soon to be released book "He Said She Said - Eight Powerful Phrases That Will Strengthen Your Marriage." The book discusses four phrases every woman needs to hear from her man and four phrases every man needs to hear from his wife. We'll look at the purpose for marriage, modern marriages and men's perspectives and needs in a wife and if those needs are or are not being met by modern American women, as well as how marriage may not be meeting the needs of the modern American woman. Please join us!

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Male/Female Communication - Nov 08,2009

2009-11-07 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Even though men and women are both speaking English, rarely do they fully understand each other. Making assumptions, jumping to conclusions, finger pointing and blaming, excuse making, shutting down and running away all lead to poor communication and hurt feelings. Joining me to find ways to improve communication between the sexes is John Wilder, author of the soon-to-be-released book SECRETS TO ACHIEVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER AND IMPROVING YOUR LOVE LIFE TOO! and Michael of Michael's Quick Help. Michael has been helping people see the nuances of behavior and how that behavior as well as what's said and what's not said (the details) paint a clear picture of what's REALLY transpiring between two people. Join us for what's sure to be an interesting discussion on gender and differences in communication.

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Violence Against Women and The Increase in Pack Rapes - Nov 04,2009

2009-11-04

We continue our investigation of the issue of gang rape and rape culture with a panel of top experts on violent crimes against women. We'll examine the mentality of males that would willingly participate in such a vicious crime, as well as reasons why males are recording these events on video, laughing about the rape, and refusing to intervene on behalf of the victim.

Is this truly what our society has become? Where do we go from here?

Joining me tonight is:

Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball (doctorjoyce.com), an Atlanta psychoterapist and Criminal Justice Specialist certified by the National Assn of Forensic Counselors (NAFC); Ben Atherton-Zeman (spokesperson for the National Organization for Men Against Sexism (nomas.org) and a public speaker on issues of violence prevention; Carole Bartholomeaux (b-pr.com), one of the founders of the Center Against Sexual Assault, the first rape crisis organization in Phoenix; Wendell Watkins Sr. (youvestigate.com), who retired from the Metropolitan Police Department (MPD) in Washington, D.C., as Deputy Chief of Police with more than 30 years of experience. Chief Watkins also served as commander of the Washington D.C. Sex Offense Branch for five years and is the author of "You Vestigate, Don't Speculate;" Melody Brooke, MA, LPC, LMFT, a therapist with extensive experience with trauma survivors (ohwowthischangeseverything.com); and The Rock Star of Seduction, Eric Von Sydow, author of the soon to be released book "Metawhore" (hypnotica.org).
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askheartbeat/2009/11/05/Gang-Rape--Why-Violent-Crime-Against-Women-is-On-t

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Gang Rape - Why Violent Crime Against Women is On the Rise - Nov 05,2009

2009-11-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

We continue our investigation of the issue of gang rape and rape culture with a panel of experts on violent crimes against women. We'll examine the mentality of males that would willingly participate in such a vicious crime, as well as reasons why males are recording these events on video, laughing about the rape, and refusing to intervene on behalf of the victim. Is this truly what our society has become? Where do we go from here? Joining me tonight is psychotherapist, author and relationships expert Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball (doctorjoyce.com); Carole Bartholomeaux, one of the founders of the Center Against Sexual Assault, the first rape crisis organization in Phoenix; Melody Brooke, MA, LPC, LMFT, a therapist with extensive experience with trauma survivors (ohwowthischangeseverything.com); Detective Kurt Scanio is a 6 year veteran with the Mesa Police Department who now works with the Mesa Police Assn and as a domestic violence and assault detective, hand in hand with victim services throughout the area; The Rockstar of Seduction, Eric Von Sydow, author of the soon to be released book "Metawhore" (hypnotica.org); and Wendell Watkins Sr. (youvestigate.com), who retired from the Metropolitan Police Department (MPD) in Washington, D.C., as Deputy Chief of Police with more than 30 years of experience. Chief Watkins also served as commander of the Washington D.C. Sex Offense Branch for five years and is the author of "You Vestigate, Don't Speculate."

violence against women | rape culture | campus sexual assaults | why men rape women | gang rapes

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Street Harassment - Oct 29,2009

2009-10-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Catcalls, whistles, ogling females with lustful stares, following females down the street four deep in a car, and even copping a feel - men accost women on the streets daily. Why do men insist on treating women and girls as young as 10 years old with such callous disrespect? Some men react angrily with profanity and name calling when their "greetings" are met with a sneer or flatly ignored. Tonight we discuss street harassment, male sense of entitlement to get a complete strangers time and attention, and the legal and social ramifications of street harassment. Dr. Carla Stokes Founder and CEO of Helping Our Teen Girls in Real Life Situations, Inc. (HOTGIRLS), Dr. Sulaiman Nuriddin of MenStoppingViolence.Org, Detective Kurt Scanio of the Mesa Police Association, and Lauren Taylor of DefendYourself.Org will be on the panel.

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Has Gang Rape Become a Spectator Sport? - Oct 27,2009

2009-10-26 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

All around the United States and the world, women and girls are raped daily. This past weekend right here in the San Francisco Bay Area, a high school student was robbed, beaten and repeatedly raped by 5 to 7 adult males over a 2 hour period on the campus of her high school after the homecoming dance. Reports confirm that at least 10 people stood around and watched, but NOT ONE PERSON THAT WITNESSED THE ATTACK CALLED THE POLICE OR TRIED TO INTERVENE ON THE GIRL'S BEHALF. I'll review several similar cases, and outline some of the traits of rapists and gang rapists as reported by FBI criminal profilers as well. But we have to ask... just what is going on in the minds of 18-21 year old men that makes them think its okay to hold women hostage and rape them? Your thoughts are welcome during tonight's discussion.

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Submissive or Bitchy - Which Gets The Best Men? - Oct 25,2009

2009-10-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Submissive, docile women or the woman that is demanding and challenging to men - which seems to get the best response from males? Which one is the best sex partner? Which type of woman can a husband be most proud of? Which is most likely to be cheated on? Which do their offspring show more respect for? Discussion of the woman that is confident, strong and a challenge to men (have to earn her), vs. the docile, compliant woman that does everything you want. Which is it that most men want and why? Read the article Why Weak Men Want Submissive Women for more information on this subject.

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How Long Should You Wait for Sex? - Oct 24,2009

2009-10-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 2s

Few people wait until their wedding night to have sex these days. And though having sex on the first date is usually frowned upon, sex as soon as the third date seems to be expected by many men. Some will let you know that they won't wait around to develop a relationship if sex isn't on the table right away! But to avoid being set up to be nothing more than a booty call, when should females allow sex to be introduced into a new relationship? What are the criteria for assessing readiness? How well can you really know someone that you've only dated a couple of times anyway? Casual sex, chemistry, commitment, sex-based relationships, one-night stands and virgin brides all discussed on tonight's broadcast.

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DYCK-IN-THE-PANTS - The Best Birth Control Ever - Oct 22,2009

2009-10-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Men upset about paying child support, involved in a multiple-father paternity case, or worried about a condom being hijacked -- we have the solution. There is a 100% effective absolutely foolproof way to prevent all cases of "Baby Daddyism," child support for 18 years for a child you didnt want, and all wrongful paternity cases. Its called Dyck In The Pants! Thats right... keep it in your pants and you wont have any of these problems. Discussion of male responsibility in birth control, the high number of out of wedlock births, child support and child custody issues. Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball an Atlanta psychotherapist and author, Don Chavez who served on the US Interstate Child Support Commission and President of the National Congress for Men, and Carnell Smith, an expert in national child support, DNA paternity testing and wrongful paternity cases.

Carnell Smith | my babys momma | baby daddy | child support | single parents and dating

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Dating Standards - What Are Yours and Why? - Oct 15,2009

2009-10-14 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Everyone should have basic standards for dating, but some people have a ridiculous laundry list of standards that may be a bit unrealistic. On the flip side we have men and women that have no standards at all and take anything that comes along just to avoid being alone. Is it unrealistic for an educated Black woman to want to have a similarly educated Black man by her side? Why is it that women think book smarts is so important. Is it unrealistic for Black men to want a submissive woman in 2009? Who do these guys think a woman wants to be under their foot and total control? What is on your list of criteria... what standards do you require a potential mate to meet? Money? Sex? Looks? Just how flexible are you with your list of "must haves" when it comes to dating? Read the article: Can Dating Standards Be "Too" High? as well as the article Why Weak Men Want Submissive Women

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Male Fears - The Man Hiding Behind The Mask - Oct 08,2009

2009-10-07 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Men have a great many fears that they hide under a mask of strength, anger and invincibility. Tonight we'll investigate male fears and the masks men wear to hide their terror - of women, vulnerability, inadequacy, failure, losing love, rejection and a litany of other issues. Dr. Geoffrey Greif, Professor at the University of Maryland School of Social Work and author of "Buddy System: Understanding Male Friendships" guests.

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Angry Men That Hate Women - Oct 01,2009

2009-09-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Topic of discussion is the rage that seems prevalent towards women by a great many males in our current society. Read Deborrah's article on the Hofstra University gang rape case. Are videos and the music industry really to blame for this behavior? We'll also discuss the attitude many men have about female sexual assault victims - that somehow its her fault and she did (or did not do) something that would have prevented the attack. Few men seem willing to place responsibility solidly where it belongs, on the attacker! Of particular interest is the public response to the Hofstra University incident which alleged a group rape by five young men on one woman. Guests will be Ken Solin, author of "The Key to The Men's Room: What Men Talk About When Women Aren't Around"; Jeff McKissack, owner of Defense by Design and researcher that has interviewed more than 1200 convicted rapists; Dr. Joyce Morley-Ball, relationship therapist and counselor from Atlanta; and Ben Atherton-Zeman, who has worked as a prevention educator for rape crisis centers, domestic violence programs, and state coalitions.

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Why Men Won't Commit - Sep 24,2009

2009-09-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women play many different types of games to elicit a commitment from a man. Women want to have their relationships defined, boundaries in place, expectations met! This need for security via commitment is difficult for females to let go of and mandatory for many to have peace of mind. But what is it that commitment means to men? Why are many men so hesitant to give their commitment, preferring to play it fast and loose with booty calls and friends with benefits (FWB) type relationships? What is it that men need to see or hear before they willingly and happily commit? Discussion of male commitment fears, what commitment means to men and women, and why men seem to avoid it! Read Never Date a Man That Wants to Go Dutch

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Teaching Men How to Treat You - Sep 10,2009

2009-09-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Seems to me a lot of women set themselves up to be mistreated and not loved right because they do too much. We all know how men think, and knowing that, there are certain things you do and don't do if you want to get him, have him protect and adore you, volunteer to do things for you, etc. It starts with the first date and can easily go downhill from there. We'll cover the ego needs men have and what women do or say that pushes men away instead of drawing them closer. Men are actually very easy to understand and deal with when you accept that they are not, and never will be, women. Ms. HeartBeat and a couple of faithful friends will hold court. You're welcome to participate in the chat or on the phone.

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He's Nice and All, But the Sex is Boring as He!! - Aug 27,2009

2009-08-26 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Tonight's show continues our discussion of female sexuality and men's judgments, fears, and desire to control it. My special guest will be Alan Roger Currie, author of Mode One and host of BlogTalk show Up Front and Straightforward. Also appearing will be author Saundra E. Harris and Deidre Bacon, hosts of WSER Sassy Entertainment with host Sassy & Dlyte which brings you provocative and entertaining Internet radio every Thursday @ 9pm EST/ 6PM PST. We'll discuss the sexual double standard men have which demands that to be worthy of marriage, a woman must be relatively untouched by other men. Where did this attitude originate and why do Black men have it? Should women tell the truth or pretend to be less experienced than they are to protect men's egos? We'll also investigate women's sexuality in long-term relationships and marriage... how do women decide between the man that is stable and the man that is a sexual God? In other words, how do women choose between the stable nice guy who may be trustworthy and a good father figure, but who is sexually boring and the guy that makes her feel like a total woman but won't commit? This is a very real challenge for many, many American women. Many do settle for the good guy, only to be sorry about it later. Many choose the player who is good in bed, and they're sorry about that choice later as well. What to do ladies? What to do? Read article "Confusing Lust With Love" for more dating tips.

double standards | female sexuality | Alan Roger Currie | Deborrah Cooper | nice guys and players

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How Religion Messes Up the Minds of Black Men - Aug 20,2009

2009-08-19 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Since the majority of Black Americans are affiliated with some branch of Christian religious doctrine, we must look at Christianity as the root cause of many of the problems in the Black community. Black men have messed up minds and belief systems because they demand that Black women subjugate themselves. What would we do that for? How is religion and male dominance helping Black women in 2009? This is the #1 topic on the table for this broadcast. With Black churches filled primarily with women, is the Pastor in a position to teach equality and understanding and responsibility to men, or are they instead brainwashing women into accepting misogynistic treatment by men as the norm? Is this really the kind of relationship that Black men expect? Could this be the real reason Black women are not marrying... they refuse to place themselves under the foot of a male that believes he is superior to women? Should Christians date non-believers? Why would a man in 2009 think its okay to use the Bible as justification to control and abuse women? That's my stance - what's yours? My guest is Dr. Darrel Ray, author of the new book "THE GOD VIRUS - HOW RELIGION INFECTS OUR LIVES AND CULTURE." Find out more about his him and his book at http://www.thegodvirus.net

Darrel Ray | christianity and black men | The God Virus | the black church | religious control of women

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Feminism and The Black Man's Movement - Aug 12,2009

2009-08-11

For some reason, Black men seem to feel a woman who describes herself as "a feminist" is a male basher that hates men. To these fellows, a woman who would dare upset the well estblished imbalance of power by requesting an equal share, respect and opportunities for females is viewed as someone whose goal is to destroy the Black family, and Black men in particular. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Taking a stand against male oppression and fighting for women to have the right to make choices for her own life does not mean that such a woman is against you. Being pro-woman does not mean that one is anti-male.

According to the dictionary, feminism is "the movement for the full social, political and economic equality of all people." When viewed in those terms, how could any decent man be against the feminist movement?

For thousands of years, society has been constructed to place men in a position of superiority over women. Our social structure has placed males in control, which means men have conveniently had things their way for generations. Men have been judge jury and executioner over what is right and wrong for women generations. Men will of course resist and resent any female that would have the gall to say that the old way ain't benefitting her, so she has no interest in participating in that system.

Why I Decided to Become a Feminist
I am compelled to write this post after many months of listening to Black men complain about "the natural order of things" as they relate to Black women subjugating themselves to men. That, along with the Biblical quotes used to justify persecution of adult women and the sexuality of both women and girls inspired me to investigate the reasons so many Black men felt entitled to have things the way they wanted.

Several blog posts followed including The Male Struggle for Control of Female Sexulity, Are Black Men Judgmental Haters of Black Women?, and the upcoming radio broadcast How Religion Messes Up the Minds of Men. The last straw was delivered to my e-mail box in the form of a link to an Internet radio program.

The guest was a middle aged Black man who purports to be a leader in the men's rights movement. What possible rights could men want that they don't already have? I wondered to myself. I clicked the link only to be saddened and dismayed at the majority of the guest's statements, as they expressed a toxic anger and deep rage at Black women.

Let The Shit Fly
The guest led off the interview by expressing his belief that the Black woman has failed to address the needs of Black men, especially her own sons. He provided no facts to back up his rather brash statement. Nor did he elaborate on which needs men have that Black women failed to address, but he didn't need to. The statement was like throwing gasoline on an already burning fire, and was enough to start the finger pointing and blaming of Black women by the Black male callers, which proceeded unabated throughout the 2 hour show.

I continued to listen as he railed on, stating that all hell broke loose in America when the 1970s feminist movement came into being. His opinion was that all the dysfunction in the Black community, the collapse of every institution such as our churches, schools, families and communities was due to the distortion of gender roles brought about by feminists. He felt Gloria Steinheim's statement: "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" was a declaration of gender war.

Let me stop here and interject my thoughts.

When the honorable guest spoke of what Black women failed to do for Black men, I wondered where the Black men were in this equation. I mean, on one hand women are angrily charged with failure when we TRY to raise a young black man. We're told "a woman cannot raise a boy into a man!" But we try valiantly anyway, since Dad is nowhere around, preferring his crack pipe, White woman, or his boyz to the day to day responsibility of his son's psyche and success in life.

"This is where Black women have failed!" he shouts. "Black women are not raising their sons into good Black men!"

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Sex Comes First! - Jul 30,2009

2009-07-29 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Join me and Kimberly Dawn Neumann, co-author of the book Sex Comes First: 15 Ways to Save Your Relationship Without Leaving Your Bedroom! We'll identify and address 15 universal relationship roadblocks and offer sexual solutions to each. Using her groundbreaking Sexual Solutions to address and resolve these common couple complications, the conversation will show how to use sex to strengthen the bond between you and your partner. Best of all you'll be satisfied both in and out of the bedroom!

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Texting Rules and Guidelines for Texting When Dating - Jul 24,2009

2009-07-24

Why is there so much hesitation when it comes to picking up the phone? Has texting become the newest addition to the list of "if you can’t beat 'em, join 'em?" I believe the growing preference for texting has a lot to do with its impersonal nature. It's much easier to launch a new relationship by exchanging texts than it is to talk. It's also very easy to say and do things over a screen that one would never have the nerve to do face to face (or say ear to ear). That would make things easier I suppose, but it also creates new problems.

A large part of communication is non-verbal. When texting, the other party cannot receive those fine nuances of communication such as tone of voice, held back giggles, excited breathing, or body language that demonstrates anxiety, happiness or growing irritation.

Texting it seems, is here to stay, but there really should be some rules in place to guide our use of this new communication medium. So, after listening to dozens of complaints from friends, coworkers, and family about their relationships and texting, I came up with 10 Texting Guidelines and Texting Etiquette Rules For Dating Singles.

Read it yourself at http://www.survivingdating.com/?=291



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The Power of The Pu$$y! - Jul 23,2009

2009-07-22 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Whats up with the double standard surrounding male and female sexuality? Why can a man screw around and freely celebrate and enjoy his sexuality, but a woman that does the same thing is labeled a ho, considered unmarriageable, and condemned to a loveless life because men shun her? Why is it that men expect to marry a chaste pure almost virginal woman while they hold themselves to no such standard? Bottom line question for the night, are men afraid of the Power of the Pu$$y and thus try to control it with religious doctrine, harsh judgments and controlling behaviors? If a woman wants a husband at some point in her life, must she listen or should she just lie about her sexual past? Read the article which discusses this issue in greater detail: The Male Struggle for Control of Female Sexuality.

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Dating Temptations and The Single Woman - Jul 16,2009

2009-07-15 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

It's become WAY too easy today for men to gratify themselves with women sexually with no commitment. Women are so aggressive, so desperate that they've been known to stuff their number into a guy's pocket. Women need to get back to the basics! If you are a single woman and find yourself tempted to deny your true desires for commitment and marriage, tempted to get sexual too soon, tempted to rush into relationships, or tempted to choose high-risk relationships with inappropriate guys or bad boys), this show is for you! Author of the book "Temptations of the Single Girl - The 10 Dating Traps You Must Avoid" Nina Atwood is our guest.

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What Men Need to Know to Be the Man Women Want - Jul 09,2009

2009-07-08 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women are frustrated with men! Men feel they are not being respected even though they are being sensitive nice guys. Women want a guy that cares, but that is still a decisive, responsible leader. What does it mean to be a man today? Can men inspire confidence and be the Knight in Shining Armor a woman wants? Or is it that women's expectations of men are based on fairy tale fantasies and totally unrealistic? Elliott Katz, author of "Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants" and Brenda Della Casa author of "Cinderella Was a Liar - The Real Reason You Can't Find or Keep a Prince!" are our guests for this interesting discussion on modern gender roles, expectations, and relationship conflicts.

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Interracial Relationships in Black and White - Jun 18,2009

2009-06-17 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Your thoughts on interracial dating will be discussed tonight! Black men with White women is common, but where does that leave Black women? Do White women really treat Black men better? How do Black women really feel about interracial dating and marriage between Black men and women of other races? Dr. Shane K. Perrault guests. Let's talk about interracial dating and interracial marriage in Black and White! Read: Interracial Dating Relationships - Black Women With White Men

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Is Marriage Really Such a Prize for Modern Women? - Jun 11,2009

2009-06-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Why do single men think that marrying them should be the goal of every woman in the world? Do single women still feel the need to behave in ways that meet the standards and expectations of men? Charles Orlando, author of The Problem with Women... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness, Redbook Magazine love expert and Oprah guest Tina B. Tessina, LMFT, PhD, and Wendy Braitman, a confirmed bachelorette will guest!

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Survey: What Women Need From Men in Love, Dating and Relationships - Jun 09,2009

2009-06-09

This survey addresses questions frequently asked by confused men, including “what do women want anyway!?” "how can I get out of the friend zone?" and "what does a woman mean when she says a guy is 'too nice?" $0$0$0$0The What Do Women Want From Men and Relationships Survey will run through Decenber 2009 after which time the results will be tallied, analyzed and published on the AskHeartBeat.Com website.  $0$0$0$0$0Though this survey is for women only, we'd appreciate the assistance of males in getting the word out, so please use the SHARE button and send the link to all the women you know! The survey consists primarily of "fill in the blank" questions and takes about 10 minutes to complete. Remember, this survey is for WOMEN ONLY.  Click to take the What Do Women Want From Men and Relationships survey!$0

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Take The Interracial Relationships Survey - May 28,2009

2009-05-28

Please take the AskHeartBeat.Com Interracial Relationships Survey!  Takes only about 5 minutes to complete (all multiple choice questions). 

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Do We Really Know What Love Is? - May 28,2009

2009-05-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Dr. Lige Dailey, Jr. is a San Francisco Bay Area marriage, family and child counselor, and author of several books about love. In this broadcast we'll examine his theories on the 14 types of love. We'll also take a hard look at our assumptions about love, and the issues which make it so difficult for men and women to love each other. Visit Dr. Dailey's site at Your Love Style

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The Top 10 Reasons Men Don't Get Laid! - May 21,2009

2009-05-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

What is the secret to why some guys have women falling all over them and chasing them down to have sex, and other guys sit at home alone and horny night after night with the PlayStation controller? Even married men aren't getting lovin' with the regularity they'd like. Newsflash dudes! If you aren't getting laid regularly, the problem is with YOU.

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Why Can't I Find Someone to Love? - Nov 26,2008

2008-11-25 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women complain that men are not interested in committed relationships anymore. But men want love, just as women do! Then why are there so many single men and women looking for a love that remains elusive and out of reach? Have you really gotten out there and tried, or are you waiting around at home for Mr./Ms. Right to come knocking on your door like the UPS man? What is it about you that may put others off - can you honestly say? These and many more issues discussed tonight, including the Friends With Benefits relationship and how it may prevent you from finding true love. Attracted to bad boys, players and thugs? Read Why Women Are Attracted to Bad Boys, Players and Thugs for more information on this subject.

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360 Degrees of Man - Nov 19,2008

2008-11-18 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Show will be a panel discussion with men, covering a variety of ages, races, lifestyle choices, and marital status. I'll be asking some hard questions about relationships, interracial dating, sex, marriage, playerism, what modern men are looking for in a mate, and lots more. Our panel includes BlobTalkRadio host Alexander Roderick, and author Lord Williams, along with Rod Williams, author of "Our Black Fathers - Brave Bold & Beautiful!" Join us as we discuss the differences between men and women and their expectations in romantic relationships.

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Recent Interview with The Luvologist - Nov 19,2008

2008-11-18

Check out the interview/discussion The Luvologist and I had on Sunday, November 17th on his show.  Great fun, and lots of laughs.  And of course, I kicked some serious knowledge and shared fantastic insight with the listeners.

The Luvologist Interviews Ms. HeartBeat on How to Date Sucka Free!


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Jealousy, Insecurity and Love? - Oct 29,2008

2008-10-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Some people like their partners to be jealous, and go out of their way to evoke a jealous reaction. Some people cause severe damage to their relationships with undue, dysfunctional jealousy that causes a great deal of stress. Do you feel a sense of ownership and anger at perceived threats to your relationship, or do you try to hide your feelings of insecurity and jealousy? Join me as we discuss the personal and emotional impact of jealousy and how it may be killing your current relationship or preventing you from finding the love you seek. Read the article What Motivates a Woman to Snoop for more information on this subject.

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Light Skin, Dark Skin Good Hair and Love - Sep 25,2008

2008-09-24 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Discussion of the influence of skin color and hair texture on romantic choices amongst African Americans. Why do Black folks continue to promote the caste system of the slave master, which provided preferential treatment to mulattos and quadroons? Why are Black women dying their hair blonde, using bleaching agents on their skin, wearing relaxers and blue and green contact lenses? Lets talk honestly about how skin color, hair texture and racial features impact selection criteria of African Americans, how you feel about yourself, and your perceived value as a romantic partner.

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Dark Skin vs. Light Skin - You Tube Discussions - Sep 24,2008

2008-09-24


Mixed Black People Aware - Trophy Mates by Skin Color


I'm Dark Skinned and Sick of All Dis Light vs. Dark Mess


Is There An Advantage to Being Light Skinned?


Am I Ugly Because I'm Ugly... or Because I'm Dark Skinned?


Black Women and Self Hatred!




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Secrets Every Man's Daughter Should Know! - Sep 11,2008

2008-09-10 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Essence best-selling author Michael J. Lockwood stops by to discuss his book "Women Have All The Power - Too Bad They Don't Know It!" This father of 3 daughters and and I will discuss top issues like why many career women can't keep a man, the tricks men use to steer women into bed and away from the altar, the importance of a strong male role model in a girl's life, and the importance of leaving something for marriage. An eye-opening discussion for many, many women. Join us!

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Stalkers, Abusive & Obsessive Relationships - Aug 28,2008

2008-08-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women are most often the targets of abusers, obsessive suitors, and violent exes, which results in harassment, rape, and sometimes death. Can women learn to recognize the potential obsessive and save herself? Kristina Powell will discuss ways to spot people who may have control issues or other negative personality traits. Detective Mike Proctor is a world renown stalking expert who has appeared on CNN, Court TV and 20/20. Candace Watson knows first hand the dangers of dating abusive men, and chronicles her story in the book "Ice." This is a timely and informative broadcast for both adults and teens! More details on AskHeartBeat.Com.

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Black Women Need Love Too! - Aug 21,2008

2008-08-20 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Author Pearl Jr. is here to discuss her new book "Black Women Need Love Too" and the conspiracy in the U.S. to keep Black women alone and lonely. Bleak statistics on the marital rate amongst African American women portray this fact. There are thousands of beautiful, accomplished Black women, yet they remain single and often dateless. why are Black women so often portrayed as no more than brash gold diggers, booty shaking hoochies, and "baby daddy" welfare queens, and most recently, the face of HIV/AIDS? Really, who or what is behind the denigration of Black women in the media, minds of society and the hearts of Black men? A very controversial topic!

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Successful Relationships Start With YOU! - Aug 14,2008

2008-08-13 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Women in the U.S. often put more thought into catching a man, getting a ring out of him, and their wedding than they do the actual marital union! Examine yourself ladies so you can choose better partners and have the relationship and marriage you dream of. Do not point the finger of blame at him because it's NOT HIS FAULT! A successful relationship starts with YOU.

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Abusive and Obsessive Relationships - Aug 14,2008

2008-08-13

On Wednesday, August 27th we'll discuss dating violence, obsessive relationships and stalkers. These issues affect both adults and teens. Here is a great You Tube Public Service Announcement on teen dating violence which sets out many of the common verbal communications of the controlling abuser. Join us on Wednesday, August 27th at 7:00 p.m. (Pacific time) for an informative discussion on teen and adult relationship violence.


 

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How to Date Like a Man and Get Away With It! - Jul 31,2008

2008-07-30 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Rachael Zavala, author of "Dating rEvolution: How to Date Like a Man and Get Away With It!" shares her wit and wisdom with listeners. Get the nitty gritty on the modern dating scene - sex on the first date, friends with benefits, calling men, and more. Join us!

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Dating After 40 - Find Love in Mid-Life! - Jul 24,2008

2008-07-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Alice Solomon, the author of "Find the Love of Your Life After 50!" drops by to tell the Baby Boomer set how to find love for the first time, or find it again post-divorce. If you're single and over 40, listen in! We'll provide guidance and ideas for successful interaction and finding the love you want.

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Find What You Want..Get What You Need in Love! - Jul 17,2008

2008-07-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Karl "Antonio Love" Perkins spent months interviewing Sistas for this project, discussing their desires and relationship frustrations. Using his privy insight in conjunction with more than 3 years of research and observations about Black men, Love has created a profile of personality types and relationship behaviors. Let's discuss this unique book!

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Make Every Man Want You! - Jul 10,2008

2008-07-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Marie Forleo, author of "Make Every Man Want You: How To Be So Damn Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself!" guests tonight. If you're not meeting the men you want, this book will show you why and what you can do to turn things around. Those already in a relationship who struggle with holding his interest will learn the secret to keep him wanting more!

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Stop Wasting Time on Bogus Men! - Jun 26,2008

2008-06-25 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Finding "hidden" bogus men is a formidable task, as many operate by stealth and emerge only when they can prey upon an unsuspecting woman. Are your relationships trying to tell you to wise up? Chip Bunch and Tony Lolas, Ph.D., authors of "Bogus Men II" are on board tonight! Log onto www.bogusmen.com and enter "deborrah cooper" to buy the book at the discounted price of $10!

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Open Forum on Dating and Relationships - Jun 19,2008

2008-06-18 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Talking about a variety of issues with dating, love, marriage, cheating, games singles play, and relationships based subject matter including the book "How to Marry The Man You Want" a ditty from 1984 I found at a garage sale!

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Why Men Love Bitches! - Jun 12,2008

2008-06-11 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Best selling author Sherry Argov stops by to discuss the principles behind her books "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Why Men Marry Bitches." Sherry breaks down the principles of how men fall in love and stay in love. Her goal is to get women to understand why overgiving and being a doormat for men never gains the respect, devotion and love a woman craves.

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Dating and Relationships Open Forum - Jun 05,2008

2008-06-04 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Open phones and open topic tonight! You call with your advice questions and get them answered live on the air. A few topics on the table that I want to address: why won't modern women cook for their men? Why do women love to snoop? How do you handle a S/O that puts you down in front of others and claims to be "joking?" Ms. HeartBeat shares her stance on abortion, abusive relationships, cheating, and much more!

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Using Astrology and Numerology to Guide Your Heart to Love! - May 29,2008

2008-05-28 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Special guest Pauline Edward will discuss how astrology and numerology can be used to guide you to the match of your dreams! Find out how it can work for you.

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Are You a Lady or a 'Ho? How Men Run The 'Ho Test!! - May 22,2008

2008-05-21 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Every man tests every single woman he meets to see if she is a lady he can trust and give his heart to, or to see if she is a trifling, money grubbing, baby-making, sleep around 'ho. Tonight we'll discuss why men test women and the kinds of tests they run.

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Dating & Relationships Open Forum - May 15,2008

2008-05-14 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

A wide variety of topics discussed on dating, relationships, romance, and love. Cheating, accepting your mate for who and what he is, the games cheaters play, double standards, online dating, baby daddies, alcohol and its impact on relationships, single moms, why men look at other women, overly friendly neighbors and lots more covered in this broadcast! Please rate the show.

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Straight Pimpin' - Dating Multiple Men at the Same Time - May 08,2008

2008-05-07 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Do you think every guy you go out with may be "the one?" Do you hesitate to date more than one man because you think good girls shouldn't do such things? Do you sit around a lot, waiting for a fellow you aren't in a real relationship with to call or come by? If so you are going about dating ALL WRONG! Put your pimptress hat on and let's get real about why women MUST date multiple men at the same time. Please take a moment to rate the show after you listen to the broadcast. Read the article entitled: The Pair and a Spare Dating Program for more information on this subject.

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Suckas Have Computers Too - The Perils of Internet Dating - Apr 24,2008

2008-04-23 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The horror stories about Internet dating are mind-boggling! It's an exciting technology and enables communication with people around the world in mere seconds. There are stories of couples that met and married after meeting on the web. But there are liars, perverts and complete fools with computer access as well. Why are Internet based relationships fraught with deceit and confusion? Share your stories about Internet dating! Order your copy of "Sucka Free Love" today!

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Doc Love Is Crazy and if You Follow His Dating Advice, You Are Too! - Apr 20,2008

2008-04-19

I was invited by Alan Roger Currie, host of blogtalk show Upfront and Straightforward and author of Mode One to co-host his show earlier this evening, and participate in the interview with Doc Love. Listen to the broadcast here:  Podcast of 4/17/08 Interview with Doc Love

I am very familiar with Doc Love through his work on the website AskMen.Com, and for several years I've posted my criticism of his theories and belief systems about women and how men can be successful with them.  Basically he attempts to label and categorize women's emotional response so that men can use logic and exhibit the "appriopriate" behaviors to gain control of the relationship and the woman. In my mind, the things Doc Love proposes men do to "get" a woman are ridiculous games, full of pretense, and unworthy of a true man with solid confidence seeking a woman of similar character.

Basically, we disagree on so many issues about this stuff it's not even funny.

I had to consider that perhaps at least a part of our opposing stance has to do with racial and cultural differences, because his market is primarily young Caucasian men and I of course interact primarily with women (of all races), and Black men and women in particular.  I have almost 2 decades of experience on the web interacting with men and women all over the world, and notice a very real difference in how each responds to the opposite sex. 

But back to Dock Love.  Many the behaviors he espouses are things that would make a woman that was serious and with her stuff together (allegedly the type of woman a man would want to marry), shoot him to the curb with an immediacy that would make his head spin!

For example. one of Doc Love's primary guidelines is that after a guy gets a woman's home phone number, he should not call her for 4 to 9 days.  Let's just use 7 days as a guideline since its just about in the middle of the range.  Here is a typical scenario of how that would go with a woman that is not desperate and stupid:

Solid interesting together woman meets a guy, he gets her number telling her how interested he is in getting to know her.  She doesn't give her number out to every knucklehead that asks for it, so she sees him as someone special and is very excited about the possibilities of a date with him and the opportunity to find out more about him.

But he sits on the number, playing the Doc Love game so he won't be "predictable", and doesn't call her for a week.  According to Doc Love, he is building up interest and that she is thinking about him and hanging around waiting for him to call. 

HAHAHA!  NOT!

That woman, who is confident and secure in herself and her desirability is doing no such thing. She was excited the first day, a little less so by the second, and by the third she is irritated and tells her friends he must be married or a player.  By the fourth day she has blown him off as just another number collecting fool and shakes her head at how stupid men are and miss out on opportunities by playing stupid games. 

By the fifth day she is disgusted and hits the happy hour with her sorors.  There she meets a great guy that is funny, enthusiastic, and makes his interest in her known.  He calls the next day to touch base and tell her he enjoyed meeting her and is busy with a project at work, but wants to call her so they can have a chat on the phone or meet up for a drink.  He makes her laugh.  He asks what time is good (respecting her work schedule as well).  They decide to chat on the phone as they are both under tight deadlines.  They have a great 20 minute conversation and she goes to bed with a smile.  They've agreed to get together for a drink the next day.  This is Friday.  She has a date, she has a man that is paying attention to her, and who is interesting and handsome.  She can't wait for the date.  THAT is the man she is thinking about.  All night and all the next day.

So when homey from last week calls trying to be all casual, after sweating for a week following his Doc Love rules, he gets "WHO? Oh you!  Well I'm seeing someone else, so bye!"  You did not "build interest" fool, you knocked yourself out of the ring!

Get this guys, hanging onto a REAL woman's phone number, not a silly insecure girl with low self esteem desperate for a date, is not the way to do things.  However, if you are okay with dating silly insecure girls with low self esteem, then by all means play those games.

Some guys say well you can't call too soon, women don't like it if you call too soon.

That is bull too.

For one thing, if a woman likes you, there is no such thing as too soon.  You can call her 10 minutes later and its not too soon.  I have a survey operating on my website which has polled more than 5,000 single men and women over a 2 year period and I can tell you flatly that waiting to call a woman that is excited about talking to you does NOT help anything.

On the flip side if she is not into you, it won't matter if you call her the next day or a month later, she still won't be interested.  It's not how soon you called, its that she wasn't interested in the first place!  And really, you should find that out SOONER rather than later so you can get on with your life.  So call already!

Another of Doc Love's theories that I disagree strongly with is this:  Women With High Interest Level will chase men that are a challenge, and always keep dates.  He says that if a woman does break a date, she is not interested.  That is so not true!

Not only does the reality of our lives sometimes get in the way of dating (illness, work, children from prior relationships, menstrual cramps, etc.) sometimes women can sense that a man is trying to control her response and behavior and getting a little too cocky about how much she is into him.  So in order to bring him down a notch or two, she flips the script on him and breaks a date so that HE will be in the "I wonder what she feels for me" seat.  Kinda levels the playing field.  Does not always mean she isn't interested.  It just means she recognizes the game you are playing and she plays it back!

Now when I mentioned my opposing viewpoints to Doc Love, he termed women who thought as I do about a man not calling "structured."  When I tried to explain my thoughts, he rudely talked over me and drowned me out.  Poor manners!  Whatever happened to "ladies first?"  Doc Love claimed that structured women are the only ones that will not respond positively to his system and that they should be kicked to the curb.

Well if that is the case, I say all women need to be "structured" with regards to how they expect men to treat them!  Have some boundaries and standards for the men in your life.  Remember, WOMEN CHOOSE MEN.  So if he does not treat you in the way you expect to be treated, with the respect and attention you want, then he is not offering you the RELATIONSHIP you want.  If you give him what he wants at your expense, he'll be happy and you will be miserable.  And ultimately, you will leave him anyway, which is what Doc Love's system purports to prevent.

Dating is about providing an opportunity to explore another person's heart, mind and spirit, and to find the common ground upon which you might involve yourselves on a deeper level.  Dating is about learning, not only about your partners, but about yourself!  By showing appreciation, caring and respect to those you date, allowing them to know who you are, and encouraging them the to share themselves, you can create new relationships that are solid and rewarding.  Not every woman you date is going to become a girlfriend or wife, but your life will still be fun, full and richer because you had the courage to be real.  And for that you have my respect.

Deborrah Cooper (Ms. HeartBeat)


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The Overweight Date - Fat or Phat? - Apr 17,2008

2008-04-16 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

The issue of weight in an image conscious society has a major impact on dating opportunities and dating success. How many extra pounds are within the range of 'acceptable'? Is there a different standard for men, women, by culture or race? Lisa Breisch, Licensed Clinical Psychotherapist, Laurie Toby Edison photographer of "Women En Large: Images of Fat Nudes" and body image activist, and Steve Kasper, VP/Marketing for LargeFriends.Com, a dating site for plus size singles are our guests!

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Dating Choices: Mr. Right Now and Mr. Wrong - Apr 10,2008

2008-04-09 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

You're single and looking for that special someone. Let's say you finally meet someone you like. Sparks fly! Within hours you are wondering if this one is THE ONE. Acting upon those assumptions a relationship is established. But as the days turn into weeks you start to wonder what you ever saw in the fool! Love may be blind but does love have to make you stupid? Don't be a sucka for love - order your copy of Deborrah Cooper's dating guide "Sucka Free Love" on Amazon.Com today!

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Why You Didn't Get a Second Date...Sucka! - Mar 27,2008

2008-03-26 :: Ms HeartBeat

Most of the time we and our dates are on the same page with the "I'm cool if I never see you again!" thing. But what do you do when you ARE interested and you DO hope for a second date, and it doesn't happen? Why do so many daters fall off the horse after date #1? We'll go over the most common errors singles make which prevent dates from progressing to relationships. Order your copy of Deborrah Cooper's dating guide "Sucka Free Love" today! Call toll free 1-866-308-6235

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Nice Guys - Why Are Nice Guys Losers in the Dating Game? - Mar 21,2008

2008-03-21

Nice guys are confused about why they can't get the woman they want and why players get all the girls.

This was the subject of discussion on March 19th on the Sucka Free Dating Talk Show. And I discovered some interesting facts as well as wildly negative perceptions of nice guys, especially by men!

Nice guys were labeled as losers, social rejects, short, angry little dickheads with no skills, weak and effeminate. Nice guys are angry at players. But players understand women's needs and give them what they want, make them feel hot and sexy and womanly and attractive.

Nice guys instead try to befriend women and approach in a way that makes a woman see him as a brother, not a lover. Nice guys also tended to be overly giving, supplicating, and much too agreeable which made women feel like they could walk all over him and he'd just lay there and take it.

Women hate that kind of thing, and want a man to be strong - mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Rom Wills, author of the book "Nice Guys and Players - Becoming The Man Women Want" concluded the interview with three action items for nice guys:
Hit the gym and get your body into shape. Looking like a Tele-Tubby, soft and fat, or soft and skinny does not inspire lust in women. Muscle up and look manly! Learn to recognize when a woman is showing an interest in you. Women flirt in subtle ways and what players have over nice guys is the ability to pick up on that interest and exploit it! Respect yourself and feel that you have value. Stop putting yourself down and sucking up to women trying to get their approval all the time. Mental strength means you are confident and comfortable in your skin as a man, whether a particular woman wants you or not. Listen to the March 19th broadcast for the full story!


Purchase Rom Wills' book Nice Guys and Players at http://www.ihbooks.com

Purchase Deborrah Cooper's book Sucka Free Love on AskHeartBeat.Com


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Definition of the Term Sucka and What it Means to Love Sucka Free - Mar 21,2008

2008-03-21

Apparently, there are still people around that are so out of the loop, they don't know what the term "sucka" means.  A few of them called tonight's broadcast attempting to tell me that a sucka isn't a real world. I guess if you live in the COUNTRY and you are ignorant of other cultures and their terminology and use of language, you might think that.  So in an effort to educate such people, I'm going to explain it. 

A "sucka" can be anyone, male or female, young or old - any race, color, creed or nationality.  We define a "sucka" as an insincere, emotionally unavailable, game playing, opportunistic user.  Player types are included in this hit parade.  Suckas can also be those on the other side of the fence and includes men and women that allow themselves to repeatedly be put into situations where they are loving and giving to someone that is insincere, emotionally unavailable, a user (aka "suckas!").

In my book "Sucka Free Love - How to Avoid Dating The Dumb, The Deceitful, The Dastardly, The Dysfunctional & The Deranged!" readers are presented with tips and techniques to recognize and avoid suckas of all types, reducing the risk of enduring unnecessary trauma and heartbreak.

Loving "Sucka Free" means that you vow to wisely SELECT your partners, not let them select you.  It also means that you refuse to settle for whatever comes along just to avoid being by yourself.  Loving SUCKA FREE means you love smart and in your own best interest!

If you have any questions about what a "sucka" is or how to know if someone you are dating IS a sucka, visit the link above and order your copy.  Listen in to this broadcast each week as well.


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Nice Guys vs. Players - Why Players Get the Women and Nice Guys Don't Get No Love! - Mar 20,2008

2008-03-19 :: Ms HeartBeat
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Our guest tonight will be Rom Wills, author of "Nice Guys and Players - Becoming the Man Women Want!" Rom will present the audience with tips on how nice guys can become more physically and sexually appealing to women and avoid being relegated to "the Friend Zone!" He also shares the ways women categorize men, and why women are so drawn to bad boys, thugs and players.

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The Lies and Games of a Sucka - Can You Recognize a Sucka When You See One? - Mar 13,2008

2008-03-12 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Deborrah Cooper's hilarious dating guide "Sucka Free Love!" tackles and exposes some of the most common games singles play today. Whether you are in your teens or 50s, games are part of dating. Can you recognize when a game is being run on you...or do you fall prey to a gamester every time? Order your copy of Sucka Free Love today on Amazon.Com. Read Deborrah's article Dating Tips: Dating, Lies and Deception Are Often a Package Deal!

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Ten Early Warning Signs of a Doomed Relationship - Mar 06,2008

2008-03-05 :: Ms HeartBeat
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It's easy to tell very early on if a relationship is headed for long-term passion and bliss, or if it is instead on the fast track to a crash and burn! Advice columnist and author Deborrah Cooper lays out the realities you need to keep in mind. Learn to pay attention to the warning signals. Avoid waste-of-time romances and unnecessary heartbreak by dating smart! Order your copy of Deborrah's book "Sucka Free Love" today! Call toll free 1-866-308-6235

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The ABCs of Dating - Guidelines for Getting The Ball of Romance Rolling! - Feb 28,2008

2008-02-27 :: Ms HeartBeat
Length: 1s

Dating advice columnist Deborrah Cooper (Ms. HeartBeat) discusses dating behaviors and answers questions you are confused about. Where do we go on dates that dont cost a fortune? Who pays on the date? How much time should pass between the first meeting and the first phone call? Cant think of anything to talk about when your brain freezes with nervousness? And what topics should be avoided at all costs!? Learn how to handle yourself to ensure a second date. Call in and join the discussion!

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Date Smarter, Not Harder! | Blog Talk Radio Feed

Ms. HeartBeat (Deborrah Cooper), a social researcher, dating expert, author and advice columnist, serves as producer and host of The Date Smarter, Not Harder Relationships Talk Show. With almost 20 years of relationship industry experience, Ms. HeartBeat provides reliably witty, often hilarious and informative advice about modern dating issues. She is the author of the Top Black Books of 2007 Award Winning guide to modern dating: "Sucka Free Love - How to Avoid Dating The Dumb, The Deceitful, The Dastardly, The Dysfunctional & The Deranged", "24 Types of Suckas to Avoid" and "The Black Church...Where Women Pray and Men Prey!" Order your copies on Amazon.Com. Join Deborrah and exciting guests as they discuss a wide variety of relationships based subject matter on Sunday nights at 6:30 p.m. (PST).

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